The strongest feelings we experience are rejection and abandonment. The way they discard us without a thought truly shows how emotionally sick they are. It isnt you; it may feel personal but this is how they ultimately treat everyone. They see people as objects to fill their needs. This is their filter. The new relationship will unfold as the BPD script that it is. They wear a mask to disguise their inner torture and misery. The mask cannot be worn for long. It cracks and the true them is revealed. Its difficult to accept that the idealizer and the abuser are one and the same but they are both. We are hurt because they work hard to deceive and disguise themselves and others. How do we cope? By understanding that they are a walking train wreck. That they cannot run away from themselves because wherever they go there they are. With every relationship they get worse; not better. The pattern with them never changes. We are simply not aware of their history because they lie about it; they make themselves victims. Again it isnt us. The rebound relationships usually get treated the worse; as they are simply using someone to avoid the four walls. We cope by thanking our lucky stars that we are out of the clutches of their narcissistic abuse. We need to be grateful that we are away from them because they are truly incapable of making anyone truly happy. In the beginning they mirrored, validated, gave us attention and stroked our underfed egos but it isnt sincere. Its about building you up and putting their hooks in so they can manipulate you like a puppet. The mask is revealed they show their true colors of need, entitlement and lack of reciprocity. New relationship=rinse, wash, repeat.
Posted on: Sun, 23 Nov 2014 09:37:20 +0000