There is something about the South Asian culture or just my parents upbringing which never allowed them to express love verbally, or even remind people how much you love them. So many times when they hear someone using the phrase I love you, their immediate thought is it must be said in hushed tones. But being raised in the west, where love is apparent at every corner, and expressions of love is constantly exchanged between people, I thought Id take this opportunity to teach my parents verbal love. Every time I would say I love you to my parents, they would respond with a Thank you. As if, I was doing them a favor. No, I love you. Dont you love me back? Of course we do. Then why dont you say it back to me? We dont know how to. So every single day, I made it a point to tell my parents I loved them. We had to use the English words I love you. Sometimes they would respond with a thank you, other times they would whisper it back to me like it was a sin. But most of the time they would tell me UUFF you are too Americanized. Stop this drama shama. But I didnt give up. Today, was just like any other day, when I interrupted my mom during her afternoon Zee-tv drama sessions, and said Hey ammu. I love you. She took off her glasses and this eerie smirk formed at the corner of her mouth. I laab you too baba. Verbal expressions of love are just as important as nonverbal. And telling the people you love that you love them is of the Sunnah of the Prophet Mohammad Peace be upon Him. Hearing those words from my mother was a reform in her traditions and upbringing,but it was a custom worth breaking. Kids -- tell your parents you love them everyday. Parents--tell your kids you love them everyday. And do not hesitate to break any custom or traditions that tell you otherwise. |NP|
Posted on: Mon, 29 Dec 2014 04:57:21 +0000
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