Tips for turning new, premarital or broken, into successful relationships. How many of us have learned how to building a strong relationship? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to. Building strong relationships. These indispensable tips were written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family and even work relationships 1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid: Dont interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Dont make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If youre too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, Breath and calm down. Remember: your partner is not the enemy. 2. Separate the facts from the feelings: What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how Im seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? Whats the real truth? Once youre able to differentiate facts from feelings, youll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity. Loving your body, Loving Your Self 3. Connect with the different parts of yourself: Each of us is not a solo instrument. Were more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your gut saying? For Example: My mind is saying ‘definitely leave her, but my heart says I really love her. Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self. 4. Develop Compassion: Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you dont have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoging respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting. 5. Create a we that can house two Is: The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually-supportive relationship is to be separate and connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or herself, compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual I contributes to the creation of a we that is stronger than the sum of its parts. (Yours Truly.....Tips Tricks) #clive
Posted on: Thu, 10 Jul 2014 07:50:51 +0000
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