To every guy who considers themself to be a nice guy, I believe that it is very dangerous to hold yourself to this esteem. This is just my opinion and I am not trying to tell you how to live your life, but here are my reasons. If you consider yourself to be a nice guy, you are automatically ranking yourself to be better than others. By assuming you are better than others, you give yourself a sense of entitlement in that you should be treated in a special manner, but in all reality, why should you be treated better for doing what you are supposed to do in the first place? If you are holding yourself to the standard of being a nice guy, you shouldnt hold that above others because that self-righteousness in your pride casts a shadow over others and ultimately cancels out your humility, which is something a nice guy has (the ability to lessen himself to make others more). In my opinion there is no such thing as a nice guy. There are guys who do what they should and there are guys that dont. If you are a nice guy and you hold it over someone whom you are either dating or are interested in, then that is not a very nice guy thing to do. By doing this, you are signifying that you should have special treatment from your significant other and that if you have any problems in your relationship then you are insinuating that they are not on your part (which will usually never be the case). If youve done everything right and have gotten hurt by someone, you are not being penalized because you are a nice guy. If, at the end of the day, you did all things to the best of your ability and it didnt work out, it was outside of your control (and as the amazing band As Cities Burn says control is something out of my control). If you hold it against the other person and put all the blame on them, you are not a nice guy because nice guys dont hold things against people (even if at the end of the day it had nothing to do with you, if it didnt work out, let it go). Be careful what you let your mind think about yourself. I am not saying this in self-righteousness because I too am guilty of this mindset. I am simply putting this food for thought out there to anyone who believes to be a nice guy.
Posted on: Sun, 27 Jul 2014 18:59:58 +0000
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