Today in Growing Each Day Adar 15 For Mordechai ... was approved by most of his brethren. He sought the good of his people and spoke in peace to all their descendants (Esther 10:3). The great Mordechai, who saved the Jewish people from total annihilation, won the approval of only most of his brethren. Most, but not all. Some people need to be liked by everyone. If one person out of several hundred does not approve of them, they are devastated. They are likely to become people pleasers, going out of their way to obtain universal approval. This attitude comes from low self-esteem. People who feel secure about themselves believe that they are generally likable and do not feel threatened if one or more people does not like them. They realize that some personalities are simply incompatible with certain other personalities. The chemistry between two people may be of such a nature that one person simply does not like the other, but that need not be a reflection on the latters worth. People who are insecure and feel unlikable expect to be rejected. They therefore interpret innocent comments or gestures as confirmations of their unlikability. Since they fear such rejections, they do things in order to be liked, in other words, they try to buy affection. Mordechai sought everyones welfare and spoke peace fully to all, but he was not perturbed that he did not achieve universal approval. If some did not approve of him, that was their problem, not his. Today I shall... try to avoid using universal approval as the measure of my self-worth and avoid buying friendship and affection. With stories and insights, Rabbi Twerskis new book Twerski on Machzor makes Rosh Hashanah prayers more meaningful. Click here to order... Sign up for the Aish Daily Email
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