Today marks one month since my father passed away. I thought it would be a good idea to share some perspective Ive had in this time. First and foremost, thank you again to ALL of you who shared your love, support and prayers. They were truly needed and wholly received; Im in complete gratitude. Everyone grieves differently and while I may not have responded to some of your messages or calls, I do appreciate them. Please understand this is a harrowing time for me. I recently made a trip home to DC and was able to receive kind words from old friends and family at a memorial service for my father. Towards the end, I was able to share some words and Id like to share them here, in hopes that they will inspire courage and ignite change in someones life. As some of you may know, my father and I didnt have a close connection when I was younger, but we were reunited last year as we had both recently moved to Los Angeles. At first things were rocky, but I decided that working things out and healing was FAR more important than holding a grudge or punishing him for the time of neglect and hurt. Eventually, we got there and he was able to see me perform on stage twice as well as share some words of wisdom and more words of caution to be better than he was and not make the same mistakes he did. We were able to share moments of laughter and lightheartedness and look back and acknowledge the past, but also look forward for healing and reconciliation. Thats what I want you to take away from this: Forgiveness and Reconciliation. I know so many people that have a similar story. They have had neglectful fathers or a disjointed history with a parent or loved one and instead of moving forward and healing, they would rather hold a grudge and punish. Where would I be right now if I punished my dad? Cursed him out? Or something else disrespectful? What does anyone have to gain from these actions? Sure, it may feel good in the moment, but what do you really stand to gain? Anyone who knows me knows that I dont hold grudges and Im never angry for long. One of my favorite quotes is something comedian/actress MoNiques husband, Sidney said to her, One day you will never ever see them again. Is it really worth it to be mad at them? Those words were always something that I felt, but could never articulate. I know God has a grand plan here. I can see a bit more of the bigger picture and I hope to inspire some of you to let go of any grudges or ill will you have towards people. Communicate, address the issue, grow. Let this piece of my life story show you the importance of forgiveness. It may not result in a longstanding relationship, but it does result in reconciliation and a clear heart. A lot of people have reached out and said, Von, if you need anything, let me know. To those and all of you I ask that you share this message, share my story either here or in passing. If you are holding a grudge currently, I need you to let it go. If not, I need you to press forward and share my message. Life is short, the time is NOW. Thank you for your time and God Bless. Humbly Yours, VonDexter Montegut II
Posted on: Fri, 12 Sep 2014 15:20:19 +0000
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