WORKPLACE BULLYING From my experience and observation I think the people who bully are insecure, lack real skills for the job, and bully to hide their own incompetence. I think its why they target people who are competent, secure, and skilled. Bullies fear being found out – incompetent, scared, and worried about their own inadequacies. I think this is true from young ages in grade school to high level positions of power. If you are competent, secure, and skilled you don’t have the need to hurt others in this way. Recently I was told by an upper level administrator that the mistake Senior VPs, CNOs in nursing make is to “get rid of anyone who is a threat to them”. A mistake made out of insecurity, rather than seeing that competent people can actually make their jobs easier. The problem is these same VPs & CNOs continue to be hired regardless of how many places they have destroyed through their firing competent people. Its a top down process that is ongoing and perpetuates itself in healthcare and the consequence is ultimately to the patient. I am a professor at a college in Canada and the bullying from my female colleagues is becoming progressively worse. I waited 2 years to transfer to another campus because of the toxic office environment created by my female colleagues, but that has only been a temporary solution. What is ironic is that the main perpetrator is a PhD in Female Aggression/Bullying and has been appointed chair of our research ethics board! Like many respondents on this site, I too have been told that I am too sensitive and must have misunderstood my colleague’s actions. While I attend therapy to help manage my chronic stress, her circle of influence and authority increases because she is a pathological liar and management sees her as a leader. I’ve been fighting many incidents for 8 years now and to no avail. My complaints are seen as personal attacks and she ends up receiving all the empathy. I’m afraid there is no winning in this situation. The article is absolutely correct about the problem being an institutional one. Enlightenment, I am so sorry that you are going through this, for your own sanity & peace of mind get yourself out of that place, you are right in saying that there is no winning in this type of situation. No amount of money or perks of a job is worth it when your life is made miserable by people like this. You have a lot of things going for you, unfortunately this makes you a target. They are miserable envious people. There are other opportunities out there and you will be able to put this behind you.
Posted on: Sat, 25 Oct 2014 11:49:19 +0000
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