Well guys, this doesnt particularly seem to work, and Im now taking some sort of semi-break, from this very noble and spiritual forum... Ill still be dropping in from time to time, to follow music and politics, pretty much as before, but Ill try not to post anything here on my Fb page for a while, at least until next year, or so... Thats pretty much the direction Ive been moving in anyway, so it wont actually be any dramatic change. Those who want to keep in touch can reach me by phone or email, or send me a message here through Fb, or whatever. Im trying to spend less time by the computer, and for whatever reasons, we dont seem to have a whole lot of meaningful discussions here. So thats why I feel, that this is the part that has to go, or at least rest for a while, this regular Fb page of mine. While these different discussion groups Im in are generally more lively, more interesting and rewarding. So Ill continue with them, pretty much as before. I cant believe this would come as a surprise to anybody, really. And Im not really sure what else to say, here. Maybe it was still a bit too soon after the divorce, in more ways than one, that I joined this forum. Throughout most of this time Ive been here, my life has tended to be a pretty constant running back and forth between different addresses, trying to be there for the kids as much as possible, taking them to doctors, dentists, music school, circus school, dance lessons, fixing food for them, helping them out with homeworks or preparations for exams, reading to the younger one, etc, etc. And Im afraid Ive not really had the time or energy, to get into everybody elses kids or lives here, on this forum, the way that one possibly should have. So, sorry for that. But also, I cant help feeling the atmosphere probably couldve been a whole lot nicer, at some other point in time. Now, Ive just tended to have all these great discussions with people everywhere else, while here theres been next to nothing, most of the time... And in a sense thats actually quite OK. Many of you have lost near and dear ones, others have had babies, and a couple of you have gotten married, etc, while Ive been here, on this forum, now... So no, Im not going to take it too personally, if Ive not been your number one priority, or so... This life tends to be pretty tough, and pretty busy, for all of us. Losing family members is always damn tough. And parenthood is never entirely easy, either, as much fun as it can be. But yeah, life is short, and while this has been an interesting experiment, it just doesnt particularly seem to work... In a sense, Im really glad I havent just stayed in one place, socially, my entire life, but that Ive known people from different cultures and backgrounds, and so forth... But here, on this forum, Ive found myself with a bunch of very different people - many of whom Ive lost touch with ages ago, in some cases 20 years ago or more - who have nothing much in common, and no natural social glue between them, and so forth, and... People have all these different views on politics and religion, and in a sense, Im not really sure if I should be sad or happy for the lack of debate, here... :^) No offence to anybody. But for example, I seem to have Fb friends with strong Pro-Palestinian views, and others from a Jewish or Israeli background, and part of me is really happy that they havent ended up at eachothers throats, here... Is that a cynical thing to say? Then again, having spent a fairly big part of my life trying to write about music, sometimes being more successful, sometimes less so, I suppose it seemed natural to me, to focus pretty much on music, here, now... As much as I may enjoy other forms of culture - or be interested in other aspects of life - I suppose I felt music was the field that I actually knew something about, and where I might actually have something to offer... Simple as that, really. :^) But others would seem to have disagreed, and thats fine, really. :^) People are allowed to have different opinions, or indeed different tastes, etc. I suppose it tends to be hard for people not to take sides, really, when it comes to a divorce. Thats a subject one could say a whole lot about, obviously. But no, this forum definitely isnt the right place to start airing our dirty laundry. That would be wrong towards the kids, and towards everybody, really. So, it seems that the less I say, the better. My ex-wife being an immigrant, Ive felt that Ive actually had to be pretty careful, with what I say about her... I dont want to put anybody down, but the fact is, Finland has been relatively isolated for a long time, and were just still not all that used to immigrants in this country, or particularly good at dealing with them... Theres a somewhat naive tendency, to see them either as saints or criminals - either as brave heroes enriching our culture, or as these endlessly selfish parasites, trying to take advantage of us... While in real life, most immigrants obviously are just pretty ordinary people, and neither all good nor all evil. People whove heard my ex-wifes side of the story tend to not think very highly of me, from what Ive understood. While people whove heard my side of the story, have often had a certain tendency to see her as some kind of monster, which is equally one-sided. And basically, when you have kids, anything bad you say about your ex-partner is likely to end up hurting the kids more than anybody else, so... What can I say? Sometimes two people just dont get along, and thats that. Let those who are without sin cast the first stone, and so forth. Anyway, the kids seem to do fairly well - I tend to constantly hear all this praise, from their teachers... So, I hope we can all move on in life, and that Ill be allowed to do the same, and... Thanks to those whove tried to make this work, and to make me feel a bit more welcome, here, on this forum, and... OK, thats all for now, and take care everybody! --
Posted on: Wed, 26 Nov 2014 14:30:44 +0000
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