Were back at the top of a new week, mortals! Question: Got problems? :) Thats what I thought--fly with me for a sec.: We all have problems. Big ones, small ones, weird ones, fake ones--were all rocking #TeamProblems in our own different way. Yup, the way we solve them is what makes us different. I recently found out some upsetting news and my initial reaction was--It isnt fair! I dont deserve this! I was swimming in mixed feelings of anger, betrayal and disappointment & I could have easily spiraled to depression because I didnt know what to do first or if I wanted to do anything at all. However, I noticed that as I grow older, I am quick to pull myself out of these feelings. So in about 20 minutes after I found out my bad news, I started laughing. I laughed so hard, I had tears coming out of my eyes and a friend asked me if I was okay. I want to talk about what my mind was doing in that moment of laughter, which I am currently doing even right now as I write this. Coping with problems. Problems are so annoying and the fact that things are often random and beyond our control, it makes sense that we would practice self-victimization, the blame game and complain until kingdom come. All great options if you want to maximize your misery and feel justified in doing it. Not so great if what you want is to deal and move on. I taught myself to laugh out my problems because it is an initial stage to making myself feel better. Laughter has healing power. You should try it. The next time a bad thing happens to you, ask yourself, “How is this situation funny?” when you’re upset. Find the humor in it...force yourself to honestly find the humor while you are upset. I promise you will laugh hysterically. Its not fair! Forget this complaint. Ive said this before--life is NOT fair. You have to stop clinging to how you think things should be. Reality isnt faithful in living up to your expectations. The truth is, life will always pull the rug on you. The truth is, something or someone will always throw you off and for a while you may feel disconnected from who you want to be or what you want to do in life. But eventually you have to deal with the problem and the faster you do it, the sooner you’ll improve your situation. Focus on the lesson the problem teaches you rather than the problem itself. For example, if someone upsets or frustrates you, you can see that as an opportunity to work on your patience. If you lost your job, perhaps the life lesson is to determine your true purpose. If your relationship falls apart, the life lesson may be to become more independent. Focusing on the lesson allows you to work on positive change, which will make you feel empowered instead of fickle.This same mindset can help improve the way you interpret and respond to events in your life. This is what my mind was doing as I was laughing, I asked myself if the situation was as bad as I made it to be (because we tend to blow things out of proportion when bad things happen to us). It might seem that way, but the truth is, it isnt. I will live. Maybe even better than what I thought should happen in my life. Everyday I train my mind to be strong, to be a big girl and not waste a good lesson from my problems. Furthermore, ask anyone who has gone through hell what it feels like to overcome/survive a problem. Its like a spiritual awakening, proving how what doesnt kill you makes you stronger. Again, focus on the lesson, laugh it out, train your mind to accept the problem and focus on what you can do to overcome it. Friends...oh my god, friends are so important; its okay to reach out and ask for help. You are not alone. So yeah, we all have problems. But you have the power to cope and overcome them. All you need to do is to train and convince your mind to deal with them sooner than later. Condition your mind to fight for you. Indeed, this too shall pass. ;) Lets get this week started, mortals! Yours, Yours,Yours, -A
Posted on: Mon, 27 Oct 2014 13:05:48 +0000
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