What can be of help to someone who has experienced too many deaths in their life? (Although it could be said that even one death is too many.) If you have had many people die is there anything someone could do to support you? When my husband was alive we went to the funeral of one of his best friends. A man we didnt even know wandered up to us and said, Theres nobody left. and then wandered away again. I have been so saddened by one death - I marvel at the resilience of all those who live with passion after experiencing the death of many loved ones. I co-produced a conference several years ago called The Resilience of the Human Spirit. The speakers were poets who had survived Hiroshima, the Rwandan genocide, the Holocaust, being imprisoned for many years in Vietnam, having a wife and brother executed in Iran, spoke for the Kurdish people who were gassed in Iraq, had survived the Chinese Cultural Revolution and others. Each of these people still lived with the scars and pain of what they had experienced. In being together they had an understanding that we could not have. Yet, they live and love and create beauty in their life and poetry. I look to my personal story; what my beloved dead still have to teach me. I also look to people who have the ability to do more than survive but triumph. The poet from Rwanda has since died and his wife tirelessly works to help children in Rwanda. I am also always inspired by those, and there are many of you, who are part of Grief Speaks Out who do this - who in a time of personal sorrow reach out to help others and create meaning for their life in this way. Not saying its easy - just that if other people find ways to go on with a certain panache (my husband often called me Panache) perhaps I can too - if not every moment - in more moments each day.
Posted on: Thu, 24 Oct 2013 11:10:10 +0000
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