What do you do when someone you dont know assumes the worst about you and acts on it? I had that happen today - in the grand scheme of things, its something that wont matter in the long run, but right now it hurts. Its silly, really - I got negative feedback on Etsy from someone who had trouble working one of my patterns. But, as I read it, my heart started pounding, I felt adrenaline surge, and I was horrified that she thought of me that way; what she said about me went against everything I stand for, everything I try to be. Okay, so maybe I dont always succeed, but I try, and that should count for something, right? That was my first reaction. And then, I tried to put myself in her position. Shed tried to follow the instructions, but shed had a problem. For whatever reason, she didnt think that Id be there for her. She didnt contact me, didnt ask for help, she just assumed that I would do nothing for her. Im calming down, now. I wrote back to her, saying that I would be happy to help, and asking her to please convo me. Im still feeling a wee bit defensive and shocked, but Im trying to stay with thinking about her feelings. She isnt talking about me, shes projecting her view of the world on me. Her saying that about me doesnt make it true about me. I know that, but still. Yeah. Im still feeling hurt and defensive.
Posted on: Thu, 14 Aug 2014 18:15:28 +0000
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