You are in a new found relationship with a wonderful guy. However, there is one problem, his ex girlfriend keeps on calling him and showing up at his house, despite his protest for her to stop calling and coming around. He is cordial and tries to keep the peace between he and his ex, so he doesnt let his anger rear its ugly head when she calls or comes around, he makes pleasant conversations with her, they even joke about the past when they were together. You always become angry whenever you hear that your boyfriend is talking to his ex and nothing you tell him about how wrong it is absorbs into his mind, in fact he thinks that youre overreacting over it. Letting go and trusting him to handle the situation with his ex in his own way might be the best thing for you to do. Although, there are issues when your partner can still have feelings for his ex and in that case, you should have an in-depth talk with your boyfriend about the time and attention he is giving to his ex and the fact that you just dont feel comfortable with it. Confronting his ex girlfriend in a calm manner is possible if you dont bring your temper into it, which might be highly unlikely in many cases, where many have ended up in a shouting match, hair pulled out or a black eye while sitting in the back of a policemans squad car after you have been read your miranda rights. Without causing a scene tell your boyfriend that he should end all contact with his ex, before someone is seriously hurt physically or emotionally. Whether negative or positive, your boyfriend and his ex share a strong history together and sometimes feelings just arent resolved over night. They may have been through so much together and being around each other stirs up old feelings. Feelings of romance, love, resentment or disappointment, none which is fair for you. Therefore, getting to the core of his true feelings for his ex has to come to light so that you will know where to go from there. In order for your relationship to perservere, he will have to quit all communication with his ex cold turkey and devote all of his time with you. If that is something he does not want to do, then you have your answer and nothing should prevent you from moving on to find a boyfriend whose faithful and not attached to an ex girlfriend or ex wife. Sometimes there is nothing else you can do about a boyfriend stuck on his ex, but give him his freedom so that he can go back to her if he chooses. If the relationship he has with you is valuable to him and he wants it to work out, but his ex is still a hinderance and he does not know how to stop her from contacting him or hes still dealing with old feelings for her, the two of you will need to seek counseling from a relationship therapist. It is also a problem when you end up on the back burner to an ex whose in distress or shes just needing your boyfriends company. If your boyfriend doesnt have priorties and he doesnt make you his one and only concern, you really dont need a guy like this in your life and you should be spending your time searching for a guy who knows what he wants.
Posted on: Mon, 21 Oct 2013 09:10:51 +0000
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