Your wife desires and wants you to be her leader. And what better way to lead her than to be show her how to be a better Muslimah? But you can’t show her how to become better if you’re not that great either. Therefore, you have to upgrade your Iman. You have to improve yourself and then pass it on to her in a gentle, respectful way. 6. She Doesn’t Like to Nag, But Sometimes You Make It Hard It’s a common myth that women like to nag their husbands. That’s not entirely true. Yes, there are some people (men and women) whom you can never please. No matter what you do, they’ll always find fault in something. Let’s be reminded of the following hadith: Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas: The Prophet said: “I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.” It was asked, “Do they disbelieve in Allah?” (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ‘I have never received any good from you.” – Sahih Bukhari. So, yes sisters should be careful about denegrating the things your husband does for you. But very often, you brother, make it hard for her to hold your tongue. Perhaps you’re always finding fault with her and she looks for things in your character to get even. Perhaps you’re not working (or not working hard enough) and she has to work to take up some slack. Perhaps you’re just not that great of a guy. Once again, upgrade yourself and give her less reasons to complain and nag. 7. More Than Anything, She Wants a Stable, Happy Relationship With You Women don’t get married just because they think it’s gonna be fun. They get married because they want a happy family life and they believe you’re gonna give it to them. Outside of her religious duties, that’s the most important thing in a Muslim woman’s life. Raising a happy, stable, Muslim family. The funny thing is, it’s very easy for you to give that to her. 1.Stop acting like a jerk. Be a good husband to her. Be kind. Show her you love her. 2.Don’t threaten her with divorce or taking a second wife. Yes, you have the right to do both. But using them as threats is inappropriate and detrimental to your marriage. 3.Trust in Allah, watch out for the tricks of Shaytan, and be patient with her. There’s nothing Shaytan would love more than to destroy your marriage.
Posted on: Tue, 20 Jan 2015 23:37:21 +0000
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