#rebuildingthebrokenwallsinourhomes019 Happy New Year! I thank God for giving us another opportunity to live and serve him this year 2015. Welcome to a fresh cup of tea with mum. Let us continue from where we left last year… Room 4, PART (3) – TOLERANCE. For those joining us for the first time we have been talking about the seven (7) rooms of Marriage. Dear Son and Daughter, Tolerance in marriage means (bearing with one another in love). This is one of the most important virtues in marriage. One of the secrets to having a long-lasting relationship is learning how to tolerate conflict in your marriage with all humility, gentleness and patience. (Ephesians 4:2) -with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love My dear ones, tolerance does not mean you agree or put up with everything your spouse does or says… NO, it means choosing your battles wisely. There are times it is good to voice your opinions and other times it is just not worth it. Some things are easier to leave alone, rather than arguing about it. In marriage there is no winner in arguments. It is either you both win or both lose; for you are one but selfishness makes one win and the other spouse lose which in most cases breeds strife among you. [In marriage it is better to agree to disagree than disagree to agree] (James 4:1)-What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this that your passions are at war within you? The measure of tolerance in your marriage is acceptance. You cannot say you are tolerant when everyday you are working on changing your spouse. You have to begin by humbly accepting your spouse for who he or she is; - believing God deposited something beautiful in them that is worth embracing. What is acceptance? As Robert Ferguson puts it..... Acceptance means approved or compelling recognition; believable as true. Embrace it within you. Acceptance cannot be earned. It is given. The secret to this powerful value is to embrace it within you. Consider the three different parts acceptance: 1. (Approved. Accept that God has already approved your spouse, for you. No special conditions required. 2. Compelling Recognition. Can you recognize your spouse’s God-given strengths, and overlook their weaknesses? Are you compelled to tell others about what your spouse is really good at? Accept that both strengths and weaknesses go together. 3. Believable as True. When your spouse tells you something, don’t challenge it. If they believe something is true, accept that they believe its true A successful marriage requires a great deal of effort and compromise from both spouses; compromise that comes from the heart, not because you have to in order to please your partner. Without tolerance this would not be possible. Tolerance offers you a good chance to improve your interpersonal relationships and give you many opportunities to share different things. It will also help you to coexist peacefully with people from different cultures, races, religions, ages and backgrounds. Someone once said…”Tolerance is respect, acceptance and appreciation of the rich diversity of our world’s cultures, our forms of expression and way of being human” You have to learn to ignore minor differences, while nurturing and strengthening your relationship. (1 Peter 5:8)-Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. This year challenge yourself to move to the next level in your marriage; a level of Maturity. Let go of the past, forgive and be a little tolerant on those God brings around you. (Your spouse, children, in-laws, siblings, workmates, friends, neighbors’ etc) With love and compassion, Mum #thebibleinspiresme - Rebuilding the Broken Walls in our Homes. Next… DEAR SON…#mumtosonseries, kindly invite all you brothers and husbands to join me in this cup of tea by liking the page.
Posted on: Sat, 10 Jan 2015 17:08:09 +0000
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