Anonymous Consider this... On the off chance a new perspective makes you feel better about 4 days a month. Or helps you to realize that you can and *should* have a meaningful impact on your child(ren)s life regardless of the parenting schedule. Once children reach school age and perhaps before but definitely even more so the older they get, the CP more than likely has no more actual free time or dedicated parenting time with the child than the NCP, regardless of where the child sleeps the majority of nights. Between work (for the CP as the majority of CPs are employed too) and the childs schedule with school, extra-curricular activities, social life, appointments, school work and day to day responsibilities along with an EOW+ visitaion schedule, generally CPs are not getting that much more one-on-one time than the NCP. Emphasis on the generally but for those who have never experienced being the custodial, primary or parent with majority physical custody it is something worth considering. By Admin: That, in my opinion is not true at all. As as a custodial parent you get daily contact with the child, you are constantly being an impact on their lives. Driving them to social functions, talking on the way, doing homework with them nightly, having dinner with them, etc, etc I was a full time parent before the divorce for 11 years, I had 4 days a month for 3 years and now for the last 6 months have enjoyed 50/50. There is absolutely no comparison between 50/50 and 4 days a month. None. One is a parent able to help guide and impact the child, the other is a visitor that is marginalized and unable to fully participate in their childs life in the capacity a parent should be. Maybe you are correct about an equal amount of free and fun time being experienced in both households. But that is not what parenting is about, it is not the actual role of being a parent and a substantial impact a parent should have on the life of a child. You completely lose the daily connection with the child that is imperative in a parent/child relationship and bond. You become a visitor. 4 days a month is flat out... WRONG!! Respectfully, Thomas Fidler
Posted on: Sat, 08 Nov 2014 19:44:39 +0000
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