Another peek into my brain- I got an email the other day from a sponsor wanting to know all my stats to see if they were interested in advertising on Smitten. This is the part of blogland I HATE. I feel like it puts me in a popularity contest and no matter how hard I try, I come up short every time. I know this is how it works in the business world but in my world numbers mean little. There are a lot of ways to measure success and I choose to measure mine differently. Back to said story- They asked for all my social media account followers- places like Facebook, Pintereset, Twitter, Instagram etc. I, in my realness, wrote the actual numbers down but made the comment- just know that not all of these likes are real fans. I know some of them liked my page and have not thought twice about my page, let alone, looked at it. I just wanted them to know in my book numbers sometimes lie and that just because something looks a certain way does not mean it really is that way. Looks are deceiving my friends. This exchange has really bothered me. It is something I havent been able to shake and I cant quite put my finger on why. Maybe because I felt like they were focusing on the things that dont really matter in the big scheme of things. How often in our lives do we focus on things that dont really matter? Will God care how many likes I have on Facebook? Will my kids care how many followers I have on Instagram? For the love of pete, will anyone care after Im gone how many fans I have on the Twitter? The cold hard truth is no one will care. They wont and yet it seems to be so much of our focus. Likes are becoming validation for things like- your pretty, your enough, you are likable or lovable, your successful, your heard, it is becoming the way we measure our worth and successes. It is madness. I recently spoke to a group of teenage girls about social media and how it makes them feel- every girl in that room shared something that made her feel not enough. These social media sites leave us feeling not enough and yet, we cant get enough of them- we need more. My question is when will it ever be enough? When do we draw the finish line and cross it? Is life really about running a race we will never finish, let alone win? How often in our lives are we deceived? How often do we go searching for happiness, and think we found the answer, only to realize it is not the answer you were sure it was? How many times do we put our efforts into the things that will not matter when this life is over? I think we are deceived far to often. The question I am sure you are asking is how can I not be deceived? How can I choose not to focus on the things that dont really matter? While I dont have very many answers, here is something that helps me keep my goal in sight. A little rhyme to help me remember what is most important in any given moment -KEEP MY EYE ON MY WHY. When I say this to myself the answers are simple. Why do I blog? Well, it has nothing to do with how many people hear me, it has everything to do with the ONES WHO DO and for those souls who need my message, I will keep sharing because those are my people, THOSE people are my why. This is not the first time I have said the world is loud, and it is distracting, and easy for us to lose sight of OUR path- that path God wants us on. The path that is our destiny, our mission, and our purpose, gets easily drowned out in all the chaos, and the voices that tell you your doing it wrong, or promise you the golden ticket. Dont get lost in the noise. Dont lose sight of what really matters to you- staying true to yourself is the only golden ticket in this life. Dont let the world define you, dont let it fool you into thinking its ways are the answer. You have the answer. God has the answer and no amount of likes, praise, or validation from others is going to give you the power that is already within you. Im afraid there is no easy way around this life and happiness isnt something youll find in a treasure chest, it is something you build and work for. It is the brutal climb to the summit so we can bask in the beauty at its peak. Keep your eye on the why and enjoy the journey- a few more things I think help us find the happiness we are all hoping to find. xoxo
Posted on: Fri, 25 Apr 2014 20:30:33 +0000
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