Being a supportive Army Partner can challenge the best of us! Heres the next installation of great guidelines.....We hope that you,these will help you build a really healthy relationship.... BUILDING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP, Written by HealthyPlace Staff Writer. What constitutes a healthy relationship and the things you need to keep a relationship healthy. These are reliable tools that can ...be used to create a healthy relationship, many of which have not been taught in our culture. If you want to have a really healthy relationship, follow these simple guidelines. 8. REVIEW YOUR EXPECTATIONS. Try to be as clear as you can about any expectations - including acceptable and unacceptable behaviour and attitudes, ESPECIALLY ATTITUDES TOWARDS MONEY. Make sure you dont expect your partner to fulfil every need in your life. One person cannot be everything to you. Everybody needs love, intimacy, affection, and affirmation, but your partner cannot alone give you all of that. You need to get some from your friends, from your family, but first and foremost, love yourself. Attempting to change someone elses mode of processing or personality style wont work -- and will create derailments. 9. BE RESPONSIBLE. Heres a new definition: Responsible means that you have the ability to respond. Respond to the real problem, to your true needs. It does not mean you are to blame. There is tremendous power in claiming your creation. If youve been snippy to your partner, own up to it, and get curious about why you are jealous and how you might do it differently next time. If you are unhappy in your relationship, get curious about why this situation seems similar to others from your past, and how you might create a better relationship for yourself rather than dwell in anger or resentment or try to change your partner instead. 10. APPRECIATE YOURSELF AND YOUR PARTNER. In the midst of an agrument, it can be difficult to find something to appreciate. Start by generating appreciation in moments of non-stress, and that way when you need to be able to do it during a stressful conversation, it will be easier. One definition of appreciation is to be sensitively aware so you dont have to be sugar-coating anything; so tell your beloved that your love him or her, and that you dont want to argue but to talk and make it better. 11. ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES AND SAY SORRY. Right after a misunderstanding or agrument, tell your partner to give you some time to think of the wrong and right things that you and he/she did. Tell your partner to do the same thing and talk to them after 10-15 minutes. Tell your partner to give you time to talk and explain to them why you were angry, the wrong things you did, the things they did that you did not like and what you would like them to change. Ask your partner to do the same thing and give them a fair chance to talk and explain also. This will make your relationship stronger and help strengthen the communication between you and your partner. 12. SPEND SOME QUALITY TIME TOGETHER - No matter how busy you two are, there is always an excitement when you do something together, when you share your presious time. Play a sport, eat at a restaurant, watch your favourite movies together. You will feel the magic of love and connection that you have with each other. (Please note, If some warning bells are going off when youve been reading these guidelines, or you perhaps your relationship isnt as healthy as youd like, please dont hesitate to contact Lesley. NZDF dont pay lipservice to their commitment to families and welfare. If you need a little help, all you have to do is ask.)
Posted on: Thu, 13 Nov 2014 00:35:56 +0000
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