Common Facebook Controller behavior: Friending many, or all, of a Targets FB friends; making themselves known and visible by hitting like a lot and making nice or supportive comments,especially if the person is someone the Target knows in real life. They are not only competing directly with the target for approval and attention, but also making a great effort to build up a positive image of themselves in these other peoples eyes. The goal is not only to insert themselves in between the Targets other relationships, but also to look like a better or more caring person than the target. Perhaps even more importantly, to prevent the target from being believed in case they ever decided to tell the truth about the Controllers behavior toward them to any of these people. (Such as various forms of harassment, betrayal, abuse or manipulation). Theyre doing preventative damage control on their reputation, trying to make sure the people around their target LIKE them enough to dismiss anything bad they hear about them in the future, and also hoping that they can persuade these same people to DISLIKE the target, so they wont believe anything he or she says. ~~~ ~~~ WHEN and IF the Target tries to friend the Controllers FB friends, the Controller will, especially if theyre a Narcissist, likely try to stop it from happening by spreading the implication that the Target is crazy or weird, in order to give the message that no one should accept friend requests from them. Really, though, this implication-spreading was probably done long ago, its often one of the first things a Narcissist will do when theyve chosen a Target. So by the time a Target realized that the Narcissist has been gathering their friends like Pokeman cards, the rumors and implications have already been spread. This is often why the FRIENDS of the Narcissist, and even casual acquaintances, will mysteriously refuse to accept a friend request from the Target, even though they have no real reason to distrust or dislike them. (The exception to that would be FB friends who are attracted to the Narcissist and are jealous or resentful toward those the Narcissist already knows, especially a person the Narcissist is in a romantic relationship with, or is their child or other close associate. For example, a groupie who worships Greg Allman would probably refuse a friend request from his new wife out of either fear or resentment.)
Posted on: Tue, 30 Dec 2014 00:07:53 +0000
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