Die is so waar GOD: •Put your faith in God always •The power of walking with God is to fix/lock your eyes on Christ •God loves you unconditionally and has great plans for your life Family: •Appreciate and love your family while they are still alive •Forgive-don’t stay angry for weeks, months sometimes years without speaking to a family member- should they leave this earth before you-you will not have peace Friends: •Delete friends that don’t add value to your life •A true friend will not defend you when you are wrong •A true friend will protect you when you are not theret •A true friend will not humiliate you •A true friend will applaud you when you succeed •A true friend will tell you what you need to hear NOT •Necessarily what you want to hear •A true friend will not mislead you •A true friend will rejoice in your happiness and comfort you •When you are in pain Career: •Identify things that hinder your success •Have the drive and passion to achieve your goals •“Luck” is where opportunity meets preparedness •Don’t look for overnight success-have patience •In due season you will reap your rewards •Take action! Single Ladies: •There is NOTHING wrong with being single •Don’t be too desperate to meet a man •Don’t succumb to pressure that you must get married •Beware of false prophesies and visionaries •Find your relationship in God •Empower yourself – e.g. attend seminars that build your character, find good social circles, and look good (if you look good you feel great) •Don’t settle for less-God will send you a good man when the time is right Good Men/Good Relationships: •Change your belief system-“wonke amadoda ayafana-that’s NOT true” •A good man treats you well-he shows you his love, he appreciates you •A good man-admits it when he is wrong/hurts you and genuinely apologizes (doesn’t deliberately do the same wrong thing over and over and over again) •A good man- respects you and respects women •A good man-is independent, not clingy and possessive (spends some of his time with his friends, family) •A good man-allows you to spend time with your friends and family •A good man- is a hard worker and a provider •A good man-that has children from a previous relationship is firm and sets boundaries for the baby mama-he will not let her harass, undermine or threaten you but he still takes care of those children and does not neglect his fatherly responsibilities •A good man is –not perfect (neither are YOU), he has strengths and weaknesses BUT he does not deliberately hurt you/do wrong things Good Women-In Good Marriages/ Relationships: •A good woman-respects her husband and respects herself •A good woman-loves and appreciates her husband •A good woman-knows that her husband is the head and does not compete with him •A good woman-submits to her husband •A good woman is not insecure-she knows who she is, she is content, confident and knows her WORTH •A good woman does not lose her identity in marriage-she continues to pursue her goals/dreams, she does not give up her hobbies, she empowers herself etc •A good woman is not clingy and possessive-she HAS A LIFE-makes time for friends and family –she maintains that BALANCE •A good woman-takes good care of herself- look good, whatever the shape, height, size etc-be the best YOU that YOU can be •A good woman is financially independent-she understands that the man is the provider and he needs to play that role however she does not financially abuse him, she also spends her own money •A good woman-practices “kneeology”-she prays for her marriage. Good relationships/marriages also have challenges (ups and downs) BUT DO NOT justify abuse and call it a challenge-there’s a difference Bad Men/bad Relationships: A man is bad/relationship is bad when: •He physically abuses you-hits you etc •He financially abuses you - doesn’t want you to spend your own money, complains if you spend for your family, borrows your money and doesn’t pay you back •He is an emotional and verbal abuser-good around other people, a monster when you are alone; calls you derogative names, plays with your mind and makes you feel guilty-you end up apologizing even if you are not wrong; abuses you then gives you money or buys you gifts, destroys your self confidence and self esteem He is the opposite of a good man mentioned above •DO NOT STAY IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS-IT’S NOT WORTH IT LADIES - YOU CANNOT CHANGE A PERSON •DO NOT STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE HIS FAMILY “LIKES” YOU •WHEN IT’S OVER-LET IT GO/LEAVE •MARRIAGE WILL NOT CHANGE AN ABUSER IF HE ABUSED YOU BEFORE MARRIAGE/HE WILL CONTINUE TO ABUSE YOU IN MARRIAGE CONCLUSION •Ladies we are wonderfully and fearfully made in the image of the Most High God •Let us love ourselves and know our worth •“FOREVER” is a very long time to spend it with someone that does not appreciate you
Posted on: Wed, 11 Sep 2013 20:24:43 +0000
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