Recently I had a conversation with a friend and we were chatting about a mutual friend she was having a hard time with. The friend was constantly complaining and blaming (which BTW is completely human, we all do it) but my friend was frustrated because through all the complaining, there were no solutions put forward, no action taken, just bad vibes 24/7. Im sure you can relate. This is tough to deal with when it comes to others, and I even get annoyed with myself when I get caught up in drama and distraction instead of finding a solution and getting shit done. But many people operate this way 100% of the time. Defending, deflecting, blaming and complaining. And they wonder why everyone has it better than them and why things seem to work out for everyone else. The key here is ownership. Radical responsibility is the only way out, and often we dont see that as a possibility. Why? Because we are too busy making excuses for why any/all action steps are impossible and it would never work. #SelfBelief I remember a specific 6-month period of my life when I felt supremely stuck in a situation that was causing me insane anxiety and I was so terrified to change it because no one understood how hard I had it so I ended up staying mired in misery for much longer than necessary. I was more comfortable with unhappiness than uncertainty. And I get it. Its scary to take responsibility (was for me!) because people might get their feelings hurt or you might have to experience some discomfort and pain. BUT. The alternative? Staying small. scared and miserable? WAY WORSE. No? So. What do you think? Does the answer lie within your control? (it does) Heres how to know if the problem might be you ;) A lil tough love today ... you know I love you! Ox, Jill jillfit/2013/04/23/take-responsibility/
Posted on: Sat, 08 Nov 2014 11:45:00 +0000
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