Sometimes people say the darnedest things. For instance, “He’s in a good place.” How about, “Time heals all wounds”? Then there’s the old, “It’s better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.” UGH – throw more salt into the wound. And then there’s the, “Oh, you’ll find someone new and get remarried.” Or, if you’ve lost a child, “There’s time to have more children.” Kill me now! It seems that no matter where we are in our journey of life or healing, people feel a strong need to add their two cents. Is it because “misery loves company”? I’m dealing with a bit of a pet crisis now – and of course, all I hear is, “He IS 13 now. Old dogs have these problems.” Well, you know what – if you can’t be silent or a little more supportive, keep your lips zipped. No one knows what the full story is anyway… I haven’t actually told anyone to be quiet when they’ve offered me stinging words. However, how does one learn they are callous unless they are told so? Supposedly God wants us to always have an open heart, not to build walls around ourselves and become a hermit – avoiding any kind of love from entering or going out. Tough to avoid when we are constantly being hurt… He never told us not to enlighten anyone? Yes, it could sting others a bit if we speak up and tell the truth about how they just made us feel. But in the long run, perhaps they would think twice and actually engage their brain before speaking if we ‘taught’ them that those words hurt. I love when I have these epiphanies. From now on, I’m going to tell people when they hurt my feelings. My childhood taught me to take pain due to abuse. That then sent me into a marriage that was filled with pain and abuse. When I finally saw the light and realized that God wouldn’t end my misery as long as I stayed in my ‘situation’ I used my free will and drove 3,000 miles and changed my life. Once I proved to myself that I could do that, I knew I could do anything. So, now then, why do I tolerate hurtful words today? Loss changes us. I refuse to cower down any longer and allow others to kick me when I’m already down. How about you? God asks that we serve, but we must also serve ourselves in order to be up for the task. The world is also full of teachers – in schools, certain mentors, spiritual leaders and gurus…why can’t we teach something about words and hope to change the trend? This is my new goal… Will you help me teach others to be kinder with words? Hugs & Blessings. ~Margaret Cowie
Posted on: Fri, 19 Jul 2013 21:00:00 +0000
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