Today 11/14/2013 I am strong enough to make the decision that I will no longer be an enabler. In order to stop enabling behavior, you have to learn to be detached. You have to separate your love for the person, from the actions you have to take to help them get better. You have to allow the person to suffer consequences – understanding that its necessary for them to get past denial and understand how much of a problem their drinking/drug use has become. This is not only important for them but its important for you as well. Unless you learn to detach your own happiness from your loved one’s lack of sobriety, you’ll be on a constant emotional roller coaster that will push you towards the brink of insanity. Detachment with love isn’t about being heartless, it isn’t about condemning of judging the person you’re detaching from. It just means that you have to separate the negative effect of your loved one’s addiction on your own life.
Posted on: Thu, 14 Nov 2013 15:54:35 +0000
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