When you decide to not only forgive your partner for cheating on you, but also decide on continuing the relationship/marriage, please do it because youre comfortable doing so. Its abosolutely stupid on your path, to remain with someone who once cheated on you, only to start bullying, intimidating, blackmailing them with their past and to crown it all, stalking them 24/7! Are you that physically and psychologically jobless? Do you not deserve your own peace of mind? The energy you invest in being a monitoring spirit in their lives, why not channel it into grooming another relationship/marriage? Some will go as far as withdrawing all priviledges from their partner, thereby making life unbearable for them.....all in a bid to instill fear of not cheating on them again into them. Honestly this is so wrong and outrightly stupid!.. .. ..hold an egg carelessly, it will fall and break, hold it too tight, youll end up cracking it badly, it will still break. So whats the point? Listen......if you like, stalk them without blinking, infact, dont sleep a wink over them......anyone who wants to be a serial unrepentant cheat, will keep it up, right in your face. The worst youl do is hurl insults at them and desperately try to make them feel worse than the devil himself by throwing their past mistakes in their faces..... After throwing their past in their faces, biko what next? I guess youll be saddled with eating your heart out or, youll probably take consolation in denting their image before whoever cares to listen. .. .. .. .. ..Lets assume you opt for the latter, after doing so, what next? While youre busy joblessly yip yapping, they are busy starting life afresh. Guess what? You can only narrate their past, you can never write their future. They will pick up the pieces of their lives and make a beautiful picture out of it, while youre busy licking your wounds and playing the victim. .. ..heres what you dunno, we all have a past. You are stupid, petty and damn immature to be constantly using someones past/the fact that they cheated on you, against him/her. You cant stand the heat, leave the kitchen. You cant live with the fact that they once/a couple of times cheated on you, just get them out of your life. Apparently, youve got a standard, anything below that standard which youve set, is not welcome....so kick them out of your life and start afresh...no time for national nonsense.....Its really that simple!. .. ..whats the sense in being in a relationship/marriage where fear/bitterness is the order of the day? Youre scared of being cheated on again, hence the rationale behind your becoming a monsterous mad cow, while he/she is afraid of being reminded of his/her past.. .. .. ..Thats just dumb!!! #Sighs...... Dont remain in a relationship/marriage just because you want to tame him/her. You will never know peace, as youll always be edgy over their where about. You deserve your inner peace.. .. .. ..should you decide to forgive being cheated on, then do it and maturedly let it go. Never ever use it as a yard stick to judge their future actions. Stalking them will never make any difference. They might keep mute and tolerate being stalked, bullied, insulted, blackmailed and intimidated for a certain period of time, but trust me, one day when they get choked up by your immaturity and pettiness, they will walk out of your life and go start afresh with someone who will never stalk them and in most cases, they might never ever cheat again, because they do not want to be bullied, stalked or emotionally/psychologically blackmailed ever again. ..............................New year is just around the corner, if youre guilty of the content of this post, kindly growup.
Posted on: Tue, 16 Dec 2014 21:13:01 +0000
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