Why Backbiting? Before knowing how to avoid it, it’s important to know why it happens. So first of all, let’s look at the five most common reasons for backbiting: 1. Jealousy This is the main reason why people talk about others in their absence. Jealousy means envying someone’s achievements and good. So those who are jealous of someone will automatically start to find fault and convey those faults to others. 2. Annoyance If someone has wronged us, instead of forgiving and forgetting we talk about all the ills of that particular one who has annoyed us. It feels like a kind of gratification, and we fail to see the darkness clouding our hearts. 3. Amusement Some people like to talk about the defects of someone in their absence to make others laugh. They find this very interesting because the more they talk, the more people laugh. 4. Pleasure There are people who simply find pleasure in discussing about the faults of others. This is mostly done by people who have plenty of time to waste. This is way too dangerous because they don’t know what they’re talking about and the effects that their words can bring upon them. 5. Egotism People those who are influenced by egotism which means that they are excessively conceited about themselves will always find time to degrade others those who are around them. They will be much satisfied to talk in their absence hoping that it would create a negative impression in people to whom they talk. This is very unfair and unfaithful at the same time.
Posted on: Wed, 29 Jan 2014 08:18:48 +0000