378 days of marriage ... continued 9. Marry your friend. The ice-cold reality is that not everyday of your marriage will be flooded with euphoria and romance. In fact, there will be days when the romance would wane and thats completely normal. You would need a friend for those times... One youll laugh with/at, have silly/sensible conversations with, until you find your spark again. That friend should be your spouse. 10. Triangle of love. There should be three entities in your marriage. God, yourself and your spouse. Draw a triangle, place God at the top, you and your spouse on either of the bottom corners. As you and your spouse trace the line to God(top of the triangle), youll realise that you draw closer to one another till you you meet with God at the apex. Your marriage will succeed if each spouse strives to improve his/her relationship with God. 11. I love my mom to death but my wife comes first. This brings to mind this cliché question: If you see your mom and your wife drowning, wko would you save? Ans: Well, considering the fact that I have only one mother and that I can always remarry, Ill save my wife and whatsapp my dad to come and save his wife. ...and they shall be one flesh so I cant let a part of me drown. That is the real concept of marriage. To put things into perspective, all other family considerations are secondary to my marital obligations. Children? Any man who dearly loves his wife would love his children. 12. When you hear hooves, think horses. Traits like abuse and infidelity usually roar their heads while youre dating, ignore at your own peril. Yes people do change for better or worse but if your boyfriend/girlfriend has the guts to physically abuse you, chances are itll only become worse when you marry. Dont ignore the signs in the name of love. If you think breakup is hard, try divorce. 13. If you were born after 1980 and you call your husband - Daddy, Dada, Da, Bra Kwebena or Kofi Papa, you need help. I mean how? Apart from being unromantic, it betrays a bigger issue. There are too many master-servant type marriages around. Your wife is your partner, not your child and she should feel equal in the marriage. 14. Everyday is not Christmas. Sometimes its Easter. Hard times dont discriminate and every marriage would have its share. I know there are times I do things that makes my wife feel like packaging me in a black polythene bag and dumping me in the Korle Lagoon. I try to make those times as rare as possible (like twice a week) but Im only human. Seriously though financial, health and emotional turmoil would come knocking on the Not-Christmas days. Prepare spiritually and physically for those special seasons. 15. Sweet, Insipid, Bitter. Marriage can be Heavenly, unappetisingly flavourless or thoroughly disgusting... Its a matter of choice. You and your spouse are solely responsible for happiness in your marriage. Its the simple decisions you make daily that would determine the adjectives that would describe your marriage. to be continued... *feel free to inbox me topics youd like me to address either privately or publicly (no real names)
Posted on: Thu, 20 Nov 2014 17:01:52 +0000
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