Carl Jung estimated that everything we feel about or see in another person is about 75% our own stuff, our shadow projected, positive and negative and has really nothing to do with the other person in reality. Thats based on one-on-one interaction in real life. Considering this, maybe this also a good reminder that facebook is not real life and how easily we dont perceive others as they really are, especially when there is no voice, body language or psychic and energetic impressions that occur between people in real life. Ask yourself, how many times you look at pics of a person and project qualities into her/him, bad or good, that are actually completely off? How often have you been attracted to or infatuated with a person or repelled and offended by a person just based on his/her posts and pics? How often do we project emotions and tone into other peoples post that are not really there but are coming from our own unconscious shadow? Think about it. “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” - Carl G. Jung Many of us tend to post pics of ourselves and our live experiences with happy/smiley faces. But this is not reality. What would happen if wed truly and sincerely show ourselves as we truly are, including all the time were sad, down, depressed, angry, crying or just plain simple in a shitty mood with all the vulnerability it entails? We hardly see those sides on facebook, which we ALL have. Im not implying that we should do that. There is something to be said about keeping things private, but what we choose to show and who we really are in reality is usually at odds, and even more so on fb. My theory is that people who constantly feel the need to post how great and awesome their lives are and only post positive thought- teachings tend to have the darkest unacknowledged shadow with all kinds of repressed negative emotions. There is nothing wrong with expressing gratitude, positivity and showing enthusiasm when life goes well, but there is something to be said if its done to such an extreme that it has become a buffer and avoidance with a narcissistic need to show others how great they are doing. Just like in real life: “We’ve all met people who seem too sticky and gooey. They are “too nice” and sickeningly sweet. We sense that they are somehow being fake when we are around them and we feel we never really know them. They are, as the saying goes, “too good to be true.” These people are barricaded behind their mask or persona. They will deliberately avoid any kind of negative reaction or emotion. They refuse to be real and suffer the acceptance of their own dark side and this can be a dangerous thing.” - Rebeca Eigen Many times when Ive met people in real life who I connected with via facebook, I can always see how my perception was off in parts, be it positively or negatively and realize how much I projected qualities (negative or positive) into that person just based on facebook interactions/posts/pics which were not true. Facebook is a great tool to connect with people and spread information, but understanding shadow projection and how we dont really see others as they really are, especially on a social network, is worth thinking about. That is not saying that it is ALL shadow projection. Sometimes we feel and see intuitively the person as he/she is, but it may be just a very small part of our perception and we can easily fool ourselves, only seeing what we want to see.
Posted on: Wed, 17 Sep 2014 21:49:23 +0000
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