Five Bad Behaviour That Can Totally Destroy Your Marriage Lets face it..Marriage is very easy to get into but the major and most challenging thing is the staying happily married. One thing i observed is that sometimes we just become comfortable and aren’t as diligent as we were when we are still dating, in trying to keep the harmony. If you think that your husband is not listening to you or does not understand you and your needs even when you voice them out, then here we are going to list few bad behaviors that may be preventing him from hearing you and taking you seriously. They are: Being a Brat: This is easier said than done. My first and always reaction when I’m upset is, “Operation Silent Treatment”. This has been working perfectly. It was like clockwork…you make me mad, I’m shutting down. But, I’ve gotten better. Its cool to take some times/moment for yourself and get yourself together because cooler heads do prevail instead of walking around pouting and not talking. How do you expect your husband to take you seriously if you’re behaving like a petulant child? Being Manipulative: I have read many blog post, magazines, articles that encourage and advice you to play hard to get, “make him chase you” also “hold out until you get your way and many others ”. Yes if that works for you, i gues bis fine and cool but many of you still never do even after you say “I do” Please cut it out! There is no need and point to string your husband along and playing mind games just to get him to do something you want him to do. The one word for it is called Manipulation, if you keep doing that in your marriage, Their might be a problem and big issue at hand. You might not see it now but is coming. Being Disrespectful: Every man’s ego is astronomical. This is no secret that the best and simplest way to cut your husband down is to shoot down his ego. We all know this. So, is below the belt, tampering with this. Don’t even be fooled into thinking that it’s OK and normal to turn your husband into a mouse with your harsh, cruel and belittling words, even in the heat of the moment. All You need is to stroke his ego. This will cost you nothing. It’s actually very rewarding for both of you. Being Unsupportive: We all know the cliche, “Behind every great and successfull man is a wonderful and powerful woman.” Well, it’s true. When I first met my husband, he was a young budding financial associate. Now, My husband is now a well-respected key player in his organization as well as the industry, great husband and awesome father. Am not taking credit of his success and promotions, but someone has to make sure he eats right, that he knows the dates of the dance recital, his appointments are made and basketball games and the church socials. Not to mention, Someone that will create a confortable space as a refuge for him from the world which can turn and toss him and virtually leave him dead..so always be their for your man. Being Self-Centered: Some years ago, i saw a cartoon in Ebony magazine. A bride and groom were standing at the altar. The bride’s bubble over her head read, “Jackpot – $$$”. The groom’s bubble read, “Finally some help with these bills!” The summary of this cartoon is that she see the union as a “jackpot” and he see it as gaining a help mate. The simple option to follow here is not to be self centered, we should try as much as possible to try give some help in your marriage whether it’s financially or emotionally. You should not always make withdrawals. But, you have to make some deposits, too!
Posted on: Thu, 13 Mar 2014 09:00:06 +0000