Here are 10 things I’ve learned about the power of words: 1. Life and death are in the power of words. I can help bring out the best in people or I can help to destroy them, just with my words. A power I don’t want to misuse, though sometimes do. 2. Words change our behavior. In the UK documentary series ‘The Young Ones’ researchers exposed one group of university students to words about aging (i.e., old, infirm, hobble, wizened, geriatric), and another group to words around youth (i.e., skip, joy, jump, fun, young, energy) for just 10 minutes. Those exposed to the aged related words ambled from the room more slowly than when they had arrived, some were stooped and sad. Meanwhile those exposed to the youth related words walked faster or ran from the room, one even skipped and most were smiling. 3. Words affect our intelligence. Science is uncovering some very interesting understandings about words, for instance: exposure to a word can affect our actions, our feelings, our thinking and even our intelligence! Research has shown that concentrating on the word ‘professor’ will make you smarter, while mulling over the words ‘soccer hooligan’ will decrease your intelligence. 4. The words I say to my husband will influence who he becomes. If exposure to one little word influences people then I have to keep in mind constantly just what influence my words have on who my husband becomes. Some days I have to choose my words carefully! 5. The words I say to others about my husband will influence who he becomes – especially if I say those words in front of him. What he hears me say about him builds his picture of himself. I was fortunate enough to learn this little gem very early in my marriage and I believe it stopped me from destroying a lovely, lovely man. 6. Complaint mushes your brain. According to Trevor Blake, author of 3 Simple Steps - even listening to words of complaint for as little as 30 minutes strips away neurons in the hippocampus area of our brains and turns your brain to ‘mush’. Complaint is a fall back position for me and one I best avoid if I want my husband and friends to have any brain cells left – the fact I have a few remaining ones is nothing short of a miracle. 7. Every single day I am influencing myself with the words I tell myself about myself. All those nasty little things I say to myself gain a foothold and bear sour fruit. Learning to speak nicely to myself grows much tastier fruit and everyone benefits. 8. Every single day I influence others with my words. This is often hard for me to remember. I am quick to point out faults and much slower to find the good in others. I send myself daily reminders to speak kindly! 9. Words come with emotions attached. I, like anyone else, have a stack of oft used words that regularly appear in my speech and reveal my issues. I have struggled with fear and anxiety so my speech tends to be littered with words like “afraid”, “fear”, “Oh no!”, “Oh dear!”, and “That’s terrible”. Most situations don’t call for such emotionally laden words. 10. I can see a situation very differently just by changing the words I use.
Posted on: Sat, 09 Nov 2013 20:13:12 +0000
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