I just opened up My womans facebook page and noticed that she shared this on her timeline a couple of days ago. For many many years now she has been believing that anytime (EVERY TIME) I point out/ focus on something about her behavior, that is counterproductive toward harmony, both within herself and around her, her automatic response is that Im being judgmental. Stating that I basically have no right to bring attention to her flaws. I see flaws as sore spots, bruises, and cuts. I basically point them out because they need healing. I dont just point them out to be an asshole, however I am perceived as an asshole for not ignoring them. Is it okay to have knowledge about a cut with infection and to ignore it? Is it okay to not suggest a remedy? Some of these cuts, I helped to make deeper during my ignorance and stupidity in the past. I am expected to just walk around these wounds and pretend like they do not exist. I clearly see the puss oozing out and dripping on everybody who is in her vicinity. And I see how they are preventing her from being at ease. She is protecting them from more damage. She somehow believes that my application of an ointment will cause greater pain and infection. So, when I offer a diagnosis for an ailment I can see is hurting another and causing them great pain, am I actually defining my own pain, as the meme states? Am I ignoring that I am the one with the cut? Im the one who has the bruise and my seeing her with that bruise is actually me projecting that onto her? Trying to define her by me defining my own bruise? A judgement is not a defining of a person, it is a defining of a situation that is occurring or has occurred. A judgement is a clarification of something that is in error, such as behavior. If somebody has bad behavior and it is effecting all the people around them, how would that judgement of the situation be construed as a defining of the person or myself? The above quote sounds good and it allows people who believe in it to protect their wounds from judgement, but the fact is that the above quote is a fantasy/ deception. It causes a person living in error to keep DEFENDING their errors rather than to allow other peoples perspectives to shine in and BRING LIGHT to those errors/ wounds. If you have a cut and I can see the puss dripping all over yourself and your children, am I defining myself by judging the situation of what is occurring in reality? I am therefore defining myself as an asshole?
Posted on: Sun, 18 Jan 2015 19:01:11 +0000
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