MAKING A CHOICE CAN EITHER BE DYF OR BYF The most expensive freedom is the “freedom of choice” when you are free to choose, that is the most sensitive and dearest time when one must master the art of exercising very due care. The effects of exercise your free choice unwisely has dire and very costly consequences. We often find ourselves from time to time having to exercise our freedom of choice. However the challenge is that whatever we chose at any given point in time, for whatever decision, there are only two possible outcomes. Firstly making a choice is always a matter of now. Whether you choose to postpone it to a later moment or you decide now, that in itself is a choice making process. Your choice may be either Destroying Your Future (DYF) or Building Your Future (BYF). So destroying or building one’s future is always a matter of now and an everyday phenomenon. We are always presented we competing and conflicting decisions or choices to make. At all times the choices or decision we make as a matter of now, always have conflicting interest. It could be making a choice that is pro interest for short gain and the expense of the long term benefits. The conflicting choice as an alternative is making a choice that is pro long term benefits at the expense for the short term gain. This situation, has, interwoven in it, the notion of DYF or BYF, whatever choice you make it will be either contributing or impacting on building your future or destroying your future. Off course the degree vary to the extent, scale and scope of seriousness of the decision being made at the time. Wasting time on having fun constitutes a very good example of short term pleasure at the expense of long term gain. The conflicting choice would have been investing that time on either starting a business or attending a workshop, training course on entrepreneurship. The other conflicting alternative you could have been on networking sprees that will be a not as entertaining but would surely yield long term benefit. And the other conflicting choice could be working an extra time, or furthering your studies. Places fun as an utmost priority catches up with you later when you look back at your counterparts or peer group how advanced they are in life because they have sacrificed the short term pleasure for long term sustainable gains. Another interesting example of conflicting choices is when you are free to choose the love(r) of your life. We are often confronted by this endemic decision of having to choose a long term partner. Firstly you can either do it now, or fail to do it now at the expense of the future. In most cases, the consoling rationale or solace for not doing it now is the excuse of “I don’t want to commit or settle down, I just want to have some fun or take it easy”. This too has seriously costly consequences which vary according to differing material circumstances and situational needs and challenges. On the other hand when one decides to make a decision now about the long term relationship, we are often stuck between choosing things that will give us long term gain or short term benefits. What is notable is that the men’s list of short term gain versus long term gain, vehemently differ from that of women. The bottom line is still the fact that we have competing conflict between choosing things that will make us happy now at the expense of the future or delay short term gratification or pleasure for the long term future benefits. Sadly in most cases we are inclined to, and we often chose short term pleasure at the expense of the long term gains. One could write a book citing numerous or plenty examples of choices that are driven, influenced, shaped, coerced and/or persuaded by the short term gains at the expense of the long term benefit. So the bottom line is either way whatever we choose we are in a catch 21 situation. Our choices will always be either a DYF or BYF. The key is to always ask yourself a critical question at any given point in time when you have to make a choice. That critical question is “This choice that I’m making, is it a DYF choice or BYF choice. And if it is a DYF, you need to reinvent the wheel and chose again until you are quite certain it’s a BYF choice. The freedom to make this choice is very expensive because it is priceless but the consequences are often dire and have long term traumatic experiences and regrets. In conclusion, exercising freedom of choice can either result to a DYF or BYF, and if such a choice is motivated by wrong influences or persuasions, DYF will be the outcome. No one in the right state of mind will consciously choose DYF. However for obvious (sometimes not obvious) reasons, when one is intoxicated by certain influences, makes a choice that is a DYF.
Posted on: Tue, 16 Jul 2013 06:59:22 +0000
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