MARRIAGE COUNSELING……………..(and REMEMBER…I’M not actually married, SO consider I COULD be WRONG)……………… …………. I DON’T know why I’m talking about Marriage today, but then again, I DO……….There could be MANY CHRISTIANS who want it. GOD has to give the RABBIT A CARROT to make them FOLLOW, or PUT GOOD BAIT for the FISH….to STAY INTERESTED AND DO HIS WILL………….So MARRIAGE for MANY CHRISTIANS can be BAIT….SO I talk about it SOMETIMES…….I’ll talk about MARRIAGE, PROSPERITY, DREAMS COME TRUE, MINISTERING TO MASSES……….and even HELL FIRE, or SIN CONSEQUENCES to ….MOTIVATE, INSPIRE us CHRISTIAN HUMANS………….I really think the CHURCH I PASTOR, EXPLOSIVE DREAM CITY CHURCH………will have LOTS OF WEDDINGS……………It is SOMETHING that will DRAW many……….I DON’T like doing funerals too much………………………..THEY DRAW people too, BUT NOT always HAPPY, but a MARRIAGE IS A HAPPY OCCASION and SO MUCH LIKE CHRIST AND HIS BRIDE THE CHURCH………it makes PEOPLE WISH for themselves OR REMEMBER happier times. IT’S A FANTASY DAY….that makes TWO PEOPLE FEEL SPECIAL…………………..SO if GOD willing, OUR CHURCH WILL DO LOTS OF WEDDINGS……..AND IF I do them, I CAN preach a little………….BUT HERE IS THE THING……….HONESTLY once MARRIED……it takes SO much more to BE HAPPY and STAY HAPPY….HONEY MOONS wear off…………SO FIRST WE MUST MARRY GOD and HIS KINGDOM……then a SPOUSE. But ANYONE who stays MARRIED, learns to HAVE MANY LOVES….LOVE OF GOD. LOVE OF SPOUSE. LOVE OF FAMILY. LOVE OF CALLING. LOVE OF NATION. LOVE OF CHILDREN IN THE MARRIAGE………LOVE OF LIFE………..that is a BLESSED PERSON to be MARRIED TOO………………..SOMETIMES GOD is teaching us to LOVE all those things FIRST….so we WON’T be SO UNHAPPY AND UNFULFILLED IN MARRIAGE AND EXPECT TOO MUCH of another PERSON. Let’s face it, YOU LIVE with SOMEONE…..THE FANTASY will WEAR off. THEN FRIENDSHIP, TRUST, AND CAN THEY MOTIVATE YOU IN LIFE, (AND ARE THEY GOOD FOR YOUR CHILDREN)…… ………….all of that must be considered. AS A MAN………HONOR is IMPORTANT to a man. WE WANT someone who LOVES US, but ALSO HONORS US……I don’t know WOMEN’S DESIRE AS MUCH, but I think LOVE, AND SECURITY is IMPORTANT, and ESPECIALLY DOES HE LOVE GOD, and is HE A KINGDOM BUILDER…..for THEN GOD will BLESS HIM, and ALL HE touches, AND THAT KINDA OF MAN will be LESS ABUSIVE, MORE FAITHFUL, because HE’S not just FAITHFUL to that woman, BUT GOD, AND HIS PURPOSE, CALLING, and ALL WHO HE MINISTERS too………………..HE’LL look REAL BAD abusing her, or cheating on her, or not honoring her……………………………HE gotta treat her with LOVE….because HE loves her, but ALSO ALL are watching……..IF A PERSON DON’T LOVE, HONOR THEIR SPOUSE……………..WHY would they TRULY LOVE HONOR GOD, THEIR CALLING and OTHERS………FINALLY………….age, and OTHER things in LIFE that we think may hinder us…………………………………YEAH…….I honestly think WOMEN should MARRY YOUNG like Paul said, AND MAKE FAMILY A PRIORITY….but some make CAREER AND CALLING a BIGGIE……………..Some men may like that……..IT’S UP TO THEM……………….IF IT WORKS for them………….BUT HONESTLY, WITH FAITH AND WORKING FOR GOD, building HIS KINGDOM…..on FACEBOOK, IN A CHURCH, IN LIFE, AND IN FAMILY…………………………..ALL of that…………….IS WHAT ALLOWS US TO MINISTER BETTER………….DO YOU LOVE LIFE, AND HAVE MANY LOVES?.................then A LOT OF PEOPLE will SEE IT, and WANT WHAT YOU HAVE….and ALL don’t care about MARRIAGE….so they must SEE HOW TO LOVE LOTS OF OTHER THINGS……… ………..Age really DOESN’T MATTER…………I’ll be FIFTY and WOMEN don’t care about AGE as much as MEN….I THINK….but even if a WOMAN is OLDER, I believe SHE can marry IF SHE HAS FAITH, IS BUILDING THE KINGDOM…..and…and………DEPENDING upon the man. …………………………..OLDER MEN…well some…not all…..I’VE SEEN Sugar daddies, LET A WOMAN be their ALL, and give her whatever she wants to make her happy……….BUT TO ME AN OLDER MAN with AMBITION FOR GOD….and SECURE………………………HE likes a WOMAN who LISTENS, HONORS, and MAKES GOD first….BUT THEN HIM a close SECOND……………..And most , perhaps MANY OLDER women have been through TOO MUCH in life to do that…………………….WHEN YOU GET OLDER, HAVE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH,HAVE HAD MEN dog you out…………..YOU PROBABLY aren’t just going to TRUST, SUBMIT as much to a MAN………that is just life………………..so a WOMAN has to ADJUST to that, or STAY SINGLE AND BE HAPPY WITH GOD and OTHER things in life………..AND a MAN….ALWAYS……to me….GOTTA be willing to NOT ONLY LOVE HER, BUT CARE FOR HER………………………So many men want ROMANCE….but they DON’T do what it takes in LIFE TO TRULY CARE FOR A WOMAN………….and after a while, the WOMAN will not respect him, or they will lack much…..and he may not be a GOOD FATHER to children or society….THAT’S important too…………..A WOMAN’S kids will NEED a GOOD MALE MENTOR and that will be PART of her HAPPINESS in OLDER YEARS…………IF HER KIDS are happy, I THINK SHE WILL BE HAPPIER…………… ……………..What else…………………..INTERNET love can be, I FEEL….but it has to be PATIENT not HURRIED……and I THINK PEOPLE can learn MUCH FROM LONG DISTANCE…..BUT STILL IT TAKES FAITH,and……………………I would tell ANYONE, in the MEAN TIME…………………HAVE other FRIENDS……………………………….UNTIL YOU ARE ACTUALLY MARRIED to someone and NEAR…..A LOT COULD HAPPEN and YOU COULD BE PASSING UP MANY GOLDEN OPPORTUNITIES…RIGHT NEAR YOU. I ALSO FIRMLY BELIEVE THIS…….MOST OF WHAT GOD WANTS US TO HAVE…………will be NEAR…………MANY WOMEN and MEN….do not go to a LOCAL CHURCH, BUILD IT UP, PRAY FOR IT, SUPPORT IT, AND BRING SOULS to the KINGDOM….men and women…………………………SO THERE is not enough MEN in LOCAL CHURCHES or WOMEN……for many to marry………………………………..AND MANY DON’T GO TO CHURCH…………………………………so now THEY LOOK FOR LOVE, ONLY LONG DISTANCE………….and that will take WORK, FAITH, and…………… ………………………..TIME……..and STILL RIGHT WHERE YOU, I, WE are……IS DESOLATE AND ABANDONED…………….I AM A BIG GUY on believing SO MANY BLESSINGS is in a LOCAL CHURCH, if PEOPLE just BUILT THEM UP……..or if NEED BE, STARTED ONE……………….SOME WOMEN AND PEOPLE don’t feel a WOMAN should pastor…….BUT THERE ARE MEN who may be CALLED TO PASTOR, and if I were a WOMAN who REALLY WANTED TO BUILD THE KINGDOM….if possible ,I’D ASK GOD FOR A MAN WHO DESIRED PASTORING, or SOMETHING THAT MINISTERS to more than JUST HIS FAMILY………….and then if I were a WOMAN, I’D pray for that, encourage him on that, and REALLY….REALLY……………………..LOOK FOR A KINGDOM BUILDER…..NOT just SCRIPTURE QOUTER, who ONLY wanted to IMPRESS people……………….THESE ARE MY GODLY FEELINGS ON MARRIAGE FOR MEN AND WOMEN……………………………Hope they HELP…………………..if not……………..SO BE IT………………..GOD AND THE HOLY SPIRIT can speak to YOU MORE on what’s BEST FOR YOU………but that MEANS YOU MUST GET CLOSER TO GOD, SEEK THE WILL OF THE HOLY SPIRIT, KNOW YOURSELF, and LEARN WHAT YOU DESIRE IN A MATE, AND WHAT IS BEST FOR GOD’S KINGDOM……………………..do looks matter? EVERYONE wants SOMEONE they are attracted to. BUT IF YOU, I, ANY have wasted YEARS and YEARS and YEARS with PEOPLE….and suddenly REACH OF A CERTAIN AGE, and DON’T LOOK like in EARLIER YEARS………….something SHOULD TELL US………to LOOK WAY BEYOND LOOKS………………………….I MEAN MARRIAGE SHOULD BE TILL DEATH DO YOU APART, AND IF YOU LIVE TO BE 70, 80 , 100…..like I WANT TO BE………well…………WHAT MATTERS MOST WILL BE WHAT’S INSIDE, AND IS GOD with them…………………………….
Posted on: Thu, 27 Mar 2014 16:30:38 +0000
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