Marriage. Okay I have been married going on 3 years now. I am by no means an expert when it comes to the ins and outs of it. But i have learned several things, we both have grown as individuals and as a couple. First off remember why you married your spouse. Okay, great now remember the love behind it all. Im sure many of yalls hearts just melt. Now think about how you feel about each other at this exact moment. Maybe not the same as in the beginning. Why? Because marriage DOES change your life entirely! Some may feel stronger about your relationship of weaker. And that is just fine. Now, recall all the major events between then and now. Sure there are ups and downs. These events have gotten you somewhere. Maybe not where you wanted to be at THAT time, or exactly where you wanted to be. Think about the little things. The I love yous when you had little sleep, the cup of coffee you didnt have time to make yourself. The soft whispers of everything will be okay. Whatever it is that is so small yet changed that moment for you in a positive way. That right there shows how much your spouse cares for you. Sure we all have rough times but, guess what the sun will shine again. Marriage is about growing, changing, loving, disliking. The good and the bad. Go back to yesterday. Think the whole day through. Did you do something to show how you feel? Did you express your feelings in a healthy way. What mood were you on when you went to bed? Okay now, are these answers negative? If so, change that starting today! It is more than okay to be upset with each other. We were created with emotions for a reason. But we have to be able to filter through them...positively. If that means walking away and not speaking for a bit do it, if that means dropping it all and just hugging each other for 10 seconds and say I love you that do it. Love is a wonderful thing, its beauty, its ugly, its hard, its easy, its confusing... And many more things. If you want it to grow and work you have to care for it...nurture it. It is delicate. Always do little things to show love, even in the bad times. You once loved each other enough to take hands in marriage. If that has faltered it is your duty to relight that flame, it may not be love in the same way. Love your spouse for who they are today, not years ago. Always work to make it grow! That being said it may just be me ranting but love is real and an ongoing job, keep it maintained and just be happy. Our days are numbered never leave your lovers side unhappy because that maybe the last time you see them. Wake up with I love you and lay your head to rest the same.
Posted on: Wed, 10 Sep 2014 16:28:10 +0000
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