NARCISSISTIC ABUSE Narcissistic Victim Abuse is abuse that has been caused by someone with NPD or Narcissistic Personality disorder (a sociopath). Unfortunately the very nature of this disorder means that it is rarely diagnosed. Consequently, these narcissistic individuals are prolific in todays society and are able to function and exist without detection. A person with NPD has a sense of grandiosity. They believe they are somehow better than everybody else and others are jealous of them. They have an overwhelming need for adoration and attention and are constantly looking for objects or victims to fill this need. This is commonly known as narcissistic supply. They have a complete inability to empathise with others and view others simply as a way to have their own needs met. They are master manipulators and can sense an empathic person a mile away. During the initial stages of a relationship with a narcissist, the victim will typically be love bombed. During this stage (I will use she for this article, but there most certainly are female narcissists out there) she will think she has met her soul mate. Never before has she met anyone that has understood her as much or had so much in common with, or had someone who was so devoted to her in such a short space of time. Feelings of giddiness and euphoria that they have finally met the one ensue. However, this is only an act. A dance designed simply to ensnare their victim, and unfortunately, by the time the love bombing stage is over, the victim is completely addicted to the relationship and will justify any behaviour by the narcissist in order to keep the relationship alive. For those of you who have fallen victim to this type of abuse, you will know, that when the mask falls, which it very quickly does once the Narc knows that he has his victim completely hooked, the true personality of the abuser is revealed. And so begins the brainwashing and traumatic abuse where victims are left thinking they are actually crazy, and doubt themselves at any opportunity. To keep their narcissistic supply hooked, the Narc will every now and then produce a degree of the initial love bombing behaviour, and just as a person playing a poker machine plays for hours hoping to get that elusive jackpot, so does the victim stay in the relationship, thinking that this glimpse of the former loving behaviour is real and it will continue. .......The hardest thing for victims to come to terms with is.............It was never real, Classic traits of Narcissists that you may recognise in your Narcopath. ; Competitiveness; Glorifies and falsifies achievements past and present; Expects to be recognised and praised; Finds others not complying with wants intolerable; Extreme sensitivity to criticism; Extreme defensiveness when confronted; Pathological lying; Childish outbursts and behaviour; Extreme lack of compassion or sensitivity towards love partners (and others) problems; Grossly unsupportive to familiars in times of need; Uses allies real or imagined to back up claims and arguments; Doesn’t trust love partners; Tendency towards unreasonable jealousy and possessiveness; Uses vengeance, threats and intimidation to control ; Uses excessive charm and manipulation to control; Discredits love partners to gain attention / sympathy from others; Emotionally punishes love partners when feeling insecure; Emotionally punishes love partners when they are struggling with issues, losses, grief or challenges; Gross failure to apologise or have sympathy after creating tears, distress or trauma to the love partner. We will be discussing this topic for the next 3 nights. Tomorrow night I will be addressing the issue of GASLIGHTING. A behaviour that Narcissists engage in to make their victims feel crazy and insecure. Tonight I will be here online from 7.30 pm until 8.30 pm to discuss your own experiences and hopefully you will feel supported in hearing the stories of others. Feel free to post! I am so looking forward to hearing from you. Nova Comments??
Posted on: Tue, 26 Aug 2014 09:12:09 +0000
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