SUPPORTIVE HUSBAND It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to shout at them. Some are over-sensitive and theres nothing worse than an over-sensitive woman. My name is Rod. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Tricia. When I took early retirement last year, it became necessary for Tricia to get a full-time job for the extra income that we need. Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I now usually get home from the pub about the same time she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she nearly always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I dont shout at her, instead I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch at the pub so eating out again is out of the question; Im ready for some home cooked food when I get in. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now its usual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they wont clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed. Another symptom of ageing is complaining. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to do the shopping during her lunch hour. But we take them for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she wont have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wont hurt her. I like to think tact is one of my strong points. When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She has to take a rest when she has only half finished mowing the lawn and several extra breaks when shes vacuuming through the house. It does annoy me, vacuuming when Im trying to watch Match of the Day, but I try not to make a scene. Im a fair man. I tell her to make herself a nice cup of tea and just sit for a while, and as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too. I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Tricia. Im not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your ageing wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other. EDITORS NOTE: Rod died suddenly last week. He was found with a 24-inch Stanley screwdriver rammed up his bum with only 2 inches showing. His wife Tricia was arrested, but the all-woman jury accepted her defence that he accidentally sat on it.
Posted on: Sat, 09 Nov 2013 20:25:42 +0000
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