Sometimes when you open your heart and soul to the world you have to take the good with the bad...judgmental comment from someone who knows nothing about my daughter Macaile, and yet her response epitomizes taking the high road: Danny Ruiz: I feel sorry for this author. She still doesnt get it. Perhaps it will take another miserably failed relationship defined by her narcissism to realize its not about saving herself, rather success in relationships is found by dying to yourself and living to something much more substantial than we as humans could ever hope to be without the intervention of God. As humans we are an insatiable never ending universe of self ambition, this authors poem captures that concept perfectly. While she was successful in saving herself, herself is exactly all she will ever aspire to gain in this life, which no doubt will be surrounded by a never ending swarm of let downs because no one will ever fill her insatiable desire to be loved how she wants to be loved... How her self saving actions demand for her to be loved... She is blind to the fact that in her self saving action she has just proudly become an extremely high maintenance friend, sister, daughter, mother... Wife. Of course we do not die to self to the point of being abused by others, that is where a line must be drawn. But her story clearly states hers was not an issue of abuse, rather she wished for abuse to give her an excuse to save herself. In the end, she had no true alibi accept for lack of character. If we endeavor to truly love and be loved, being lovable starts with being selfless. She was actually on the right path. Where she failed was seeking for salvation in herself rather than in God. When we die to ourselves and live to God, He fills voids that humans cannot and makes it possible to love without losing our identity in the other person... Because it is not the other person that fills us, rather identity and fulfillment are found in God. We then become satisfy-able because we are not seeking anyone on this earth to fill that which only God can fill. We become low maintenance and more enjoyable to be in a relationship with. Sadly, this author may never get it as from her perspective it is her against the world and saving herself is her goal. Dying to self is only safe when we live to Christ. And to that end, He is the only savior I will ever trust because my attempts to save me have only lead to narcissistic fits of disappointment. Sadly it sounds like she was closing in on a breakthrough in understanding true freedom but bailed out before realizing endless joy. I do not envy her next spouse. Macaile Hutt-Take Your Heart: Danny, Youre in luck. I am the author. I read everything you had to say--more than once, to ensure full understanding before jumping to conclusions or pointing fingers the way you so easily did. I dont know where you gained the power or authority to determine that I was on the right path until I failed and proudly became an extremely high maintenance friend, sister, daughter, mother and wife because I bailed out before realizing endless joy. To me, these do not sound like very Christ-like things to say from a God fearing man who offers coffee dates to leaders whom need to talk. In fact, going out of your way to write a lengthly response bashing someone opening their heart, pain, and failures to the world is so uncharacteristically far from the way that Christ, himself, would choose to handle the situation. You do not know my struggle. You do not know if I recognized a picture of Jesus the first time my grandma took me to church at only 3 years old and told her I already knew him. You do not know if I used to walk by myself down a busy road to church before I could drive because my parents didnt want to go. You do not know if I keep a bible by my bedside, and wake up in the morning to read a Joyce Meyer devotional before I start my day. You do not know my struggle just as much as I do not know yours, and telling me extremely hurtful things such as you do not envy my next spouse and Ill probably never get it make me feel nothing other than sad--for you. I am sad for you because accepting Christ into your heart does not mean you are suddenly better than those around you who havent. Accepting Christ into your heart does not give you the authority to tell people who get it and who dont, who failed to find salvation and who never will. Truly accepting Christ into your heart allows you to see that you are no better than the prisoner in a cell or the beggar on the street. It means complete humility in the understanding that we are all sinners-- we are all flawed, we are all struggling, we are all imperfect. It means choosing to love thy neighbor, accept without judgment, and walk in faith that Christ is merciful and will forgive us for our sins. Im doing the best I can. Thats all I can say in response to your comments above. Can you say the same?
Posted on: Sat, 02 Aug 2014 19:13:41 +0000
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