This is a long winded post please bear with me here. I am having a hard time finding moms whom have similar ideas to my parenting style. For instance: I like to buy fast food and I do give my children sweets on occasion. I also am mindful that my children eat healthy. It is however hard for me to not feel judged by my parenting style in the groups that I am in. I feel that whenever I go to a meetup and I have brought say, a Mcdonalds happy meal to lunch meet up, that I get strange looks from the other moms. Now I am perfectly confident in my style and my children are very healthy and happy well adjusted individuals whom sleep great! I also use the Ferber Method of sleep training plus I have added my own personal touches to it according to the needs of my individual children. However, whenever I bring up Ferber Method of sleep training, I am bombarded with messages of extreme disapproval and feel attacked with the facts of brain damage when CIO is involved. I am not typing this to bring about a heated debate or arguments. Nor am I wanting any advice or evidence about how harmful CIO is.( I already know the harm in it thanks.) While Ferber is a type of CIO it is not an extreme form and nor do you have to follow the exact steps. I want to find other moms whom have had success, healthy, and happiness with Ferber Method of Sleep training. While I support co sleeping and have done so and baby worn, stroller pushing and gentle parenting. I find that sometimes time outs and gentle parenting doesnt always cut it. I feel that a couple of swats on the butt for something serious: say running out in the middle of the street deserves a couple of swats to get the point across of, thats a big No. I want to find other moms whom have done Ferber and were successful like our family and have happy healthy kids too.....Every child has different needs and wants. I co slept with my daughter until she was two years old. At which point I decided enough. We tried everything, even CIO.... Horrible decision. We turned to Ferber and two and a half weeks later she was sleeping in her own room in her own crib and I finally could have a break while she had her naps and go to sleep alone with my husband again and I dont feel one bit guilty or selfish! My son only co slept with me for 3 months and gradually over time we had him sleep in the swing and then gradually into the crib. I slept in the same room until he was 6 months and then gradually slept in my own bed again with a baby monitor like we did with our daughter(when she finally slept on her own). He hardly cried at all because I already knew how to get him to transition with very little crying involved. He was always so different than my daughter about sleeping to begin with too. Are there any other moms out there that have the similar style like mine? I am putting this out there not to be judged or frowned upon. I am genuinely trying to find other Like Minded moms with similar ideas and styles or at the very least be supported and not judged even if you do not agree with my style.... TIA for being non-judgmental and not arguing about Ferber. I also hate cloth diapers lol. I want to change that dirty diaper, toss it and put a clean one on and be done with it. Nor do I care about organic things unless they are given to me. I love the way I look and that I have created beautiful babies. I hope this post will be met with positive support and I can find other moms with similar ideas. I have not attended a group meeting yet. I would like to though.
Posted on: Mon, 22 Sep 2014 20:54:45 +0000
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