WHY IS OVER-ANALYZING HARMFUL #1 The danger of over-analyzing short-term relationships Over-analyzing is most common in relationships that are still at the newly- dating stage. After all, it doesn’t matter what age you are – when you catch that cute guy’s eye at a work party, and he asks for your number, the butterflies in your stomach can make you feel like you’re thirteen again! The whole newly-in-love experience will be so much more fun for you if you are able to let go of the details and just appreciate each new step in the relationship for what it is. Now that most flirting is done online or through text, it is very tempting to show your friends your new fling’s social media pages or to let them scroll through the messages you’ve exchanged asking them what they think he might have meant, or for their advice about what you should say back. While this can be incredibly fun, your relationship is supposed to be between you and one other person – your friends shouldn’t be the people helping your relationship along, and in fact, they might be hurting your relationship instead! #2 The danger of over-analyzing long-term relationships While over-analyzing a new relationship can send it to an early grave, the dangers of over-analyzing a long-term relationship are even worse, because you can destroy a relationship that you have already invested a lot of time and emotion into. When you are in a long-term relationship, you need to trust your partner *and if your gut tells you not to trust them, then you need to get out!* If you can’t trust them enough to believe that they say what they mean when they send you a text, then you can very quickly frustrate them and make them think that they will never be good enough for you. That kind of dynamics in a relationship can force it to end very quickly. How can you learn to stop over-analyzing? Making yourself transition to not being such an over-analyzer can be a very difficult switch! Try to have more open conversations with your partner about any worries you have in the relationship, cut down on the number of times you go to your friends with advice, and try to let the little things slide. Even the most wonderful people on earth are only human, and they won’t always say the right thing, but that doesn’t mean that they love you any less! Letting your partner know that over-analyzing is something that you struggle with, but that you are willing to work through it will give you some grace as you adjust, and your partner may have some excellent ideas about how to make your relationship work better too! After all, this relationship is about the both of you, and it will always take cooperation and communication to keep your relationship healthy. #Bish
Posted on: Tue, 04 Nov 2014 23:05:14 +0000
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