We’ve all heard this phrase used at weddings and in many references to marriage. It is used many times in the bible; sometimes with a literal meaning and sometimes with a spiritual reference to Christ and the church. I am not writing about that but about practical day to day oneness in your marriage. Can you think of a couple you know who finishes each others sentences and anticipates the other persons needs before they even ask? How do they do that?! It all comes back to oneness. To achieve oneness you should go to bed together, wake up together, eat your meals together, vacation together, spend your free time together, and share EVERYTHING with each other – the good, the bad, and the ugly. If you think you can keep secrets, stretch the truth, or avoid details and think it won’t hurt your marriage you are wrong. A strong marriage is 100% visibility in all areas of your life. There are too many people who wake up one day and aren’t sure why they ‘don’t feel close to their spouse anymore’ or ‘fell out of love’. Things such as this are the end result of many decisions that led to separation in their marriage. Different friends, different schedules, different bed times, different hobbies, different vacations etc. In marriage you should always strive to be WITH your spouse as much as possible – physically, emotionally, and mentally. There are seasons of life that cause separation in marriage and sometimes that is necessary. During these times be aware and proactively find ways to stay strong as a couple. Marriage is delicate and requires much TLC. Here are some ideas on HOW to improve oneness in your marriage: 1.Increase the frequency that you communicate on a daily basis. 2.Find a hobby that you can enjoy together. 3.Go to bed at the same time as your spouse. 4.Find a way to connect intellectually. Read a book together or listen to podcasts together then you can share in meaningful discussion. 5.Discuss honestly the physical aspect of your marriage and be open to change. 6.Set aside time for FUN! Throw issues, stresses, and responsibilities out the window and just have FUN! Laugh, sing, dance! No one wants to be married to a grumpy pants so for gosh sakes have fun with the love of your life! Gut check: 1.Who is the first person you call when you have news? 2.Who do you share the most intimate details of your life with? 3.Who do you have the most fun with? 4.Who is the most important person to you? The answer to all of these questions should be your spouse. If it is not, take a close look at your relationship and try to identify opportunities for growth. We learned a lot of this the hard way. I pray this helps you! I would love to hear your thoughts. Filed Under:
Posted on: Wed, 03 Dec 2014 05:30:15 +0000
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