You SHOULD! LEAVE…that Ship The most beautiful thing about your #relationship is that you are not married. That means simply, you are actually free to #leave. Now, I know that this could be an extremely difficult thing based on situations and circumstances surrounding your relationship’s status, but then, isn’t leaving before marriage that much better than after? So both families already know and are probably fine or great with it. Or the community or country knows about you two already. Probably you’re engaged even. Maybe there’s a child or two involved. Now you’re wearing obligation, gratefulness and gratitude, fairness, expectations of others, the great match that you two are, and the ideology that you can’t do better than this in future, around your neck like a cow’s chain. Were it better that you had a miserable marriage for a short while? Were it better to change your mind at the alter? Did it make sense to go through with the mortgage after all? How well is society and church that pushed you supporting you now in your dry season of horrid drought? How do you now stand with getting someone else to be your spouse after obtaining the label of divorcee? Why didn’t you marry a joyful settle than a prized frustration, someone you actually knew well than that attraction you were impressed with and admired? Look at you choosing to marry into a nice public appearance, image, and story, over happy days and nights, for the rest of your life…or choosing simply to make the best of it – poor thing. Yes, talk to yourself – after all, its ok, its not too bad, could be worse, and many do have it worse; you should be grateful its not terrible right…. Hmm! Here’s what you need to know: LEAVE! How? On a calm, civil, communicable note. Why? YOU – your sanity and peace of mind…for life! Let me explain. You’ve been working on it, trying, giving your best, doing more than your fair part, even carrying the relationship for the most part; speaking-back first after disagreements, maybe bearing the financial burden, maybe putting up with unbearable in-laws, maybe taking care of children not yours; all too understanding, all too forgiving, have really gone beyond your call for this person. What I don’t understand is why you will allow yourself to feel like this for so long; why you will be waiting on evidence while being absolutely miserable and paranoid; why you would be feeling like this person is a need when they are capable of dying; why you believe you cannot receive that good a ‘loving’ from any other person on the planet; why you would be experiencing feelings of depression in place of the desire to LEAVE. With your one life to live, you need know that every day presents hope, opportunity, chances for better, a new start, hard and difficult choices, and personal intervention for self preservation. Single is beautiful by the way, learn it and master it before your next serious relationship so you’re not miserable, needy, clingy, or desperate even. Why allow age to psych you into idiosyncrasy? Why allow ‘people’ to dictate your life’s phases? Who do you blame for YOUR decisions when you lie on your bed nightly? Is your current relationship’s situation and condition better than being single? Are the positives and good you now experience worth the pain and debasement…you now intake moment by moment? What symbol and representation is this person now – tower of strength, builder of you, love never experienced like this, person of God/heaven sent, supporter; or abuser, neglecter, aggressor, time-waster, and a once upon a time great-timer/awesome memory of the relationship’s beginning? So what are you going to do? Which pain do you choose of the two? The pain you experience after having left that will soon be lifted toward your wholeness, or the pain that will continue to grow worse and linger towards your obvious, heightened, certain, harm? Which? p.s. Leaving a ship doesn’t have to be a terrible thing you know, it can simply mean another ship – friend has a ship as does good friends; and so does court, and acquaintance. Move from one to another; or simply take time out to focus on luxury ships such as fellowship, worship, and discipleship; and for others, a scholarship might be what you need; for another set, ownership. Get yourself together before relationship yes! Curtis W A Williams, founder and director at WORDThrone eWorks, intervenes with a point-blank voice to engender introspection, inspiration, and transformation using Blogs, Poems, and eBooks. https://facebook/wordthrone https://linkedin/today/author/248567499 https://plus.google/u/0/+CurtisWAWilliamsWT/posts “You SHOULD! The Series” – Blog 26 of 52 re Family & Relationships | A “POINT-BLANK HEART-SLASHES” e-Book Quintuplet Overflow, by #CurtisWAWilliams. (Today marks half of our journey to 52 blogs. Thank you for adding value to WORDThrone).
Posted on: Thu, 13 Nov 2014 14:09:09 +0000
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