----- Original Message ----- From: dashingblade@msn Sent: Tuesday, November 06, 2012 7:08 AM Subject: Please will you help us Having spent more than 5 years asserting my daughters rights as litigant in person and trying to implement parenting plans through the family courts, I know full well how painful and protracted these hearings can be, from the fathers viewpoint. 25 hearings, eight judges, & numerous deep psychological beatings before eventual success in the Court of Appeal... I know a culture of perjury used to exist 5-10 years ago, which my daughters case & other closely related cases partially exposed, I have caselaw reference & a damning indictment of an approved CafCass Soc worker... I eventually discovered the mindset needed to deal with the process (incidentally, an emotionally almost indifferent state, not very normal for a parent), together with an acceptance that Family Law is a huge gravy train for the legal profession. Britains kids would be far better served by early arbitrage and/or mediation, if possible. The emotive nature of the battle tends to make for unilateral, sometimes irrational decisions by parents, even if you accept that there are positive intentions behind these decisions. In extreme cases, mothers can have a tendency towards a slow & cruel paternal torture of contact denials, a persistent undermining of Dads role, & a depressingly familiar list of false allegations against the father prevails - almost as if theres a list to be ticked off... These seem almost the norm from my dealings with mamas and papas in conflict, and the adversarial judicial system tends to offer malicious individuals ways of getting away with forms of child abuse, as well as abuse of their ex partners & grandparents rights. Getting a fair hearing is a lottery, sometimes it was just not possible. The laws are OK, its just that behind closed doors, there is zero accountability, and passing the buck has become an artform. If I had not used Freedom of Information access very early, the ASW in my daughters case would have got away with falsifying the evidence, hiding sibling violence & maternal neglect of a toddler... GPs and hospital reports I am talking about here, so yes, there IS genuine corruption in the system. No legal action was taken against this Social worker, despite an independent local authority panel awarding me compensation for her actions, which in essence were attempts (temporarily successful) to pervert the course of justice in favour of the mother, and NOT in the best interests of the child. As far as I know, she still works for CAFCASS, and is still trying to make cases fit her own strange & damaging perspectives. All that said, the courts are not responsible for the fragmentation of the modern family. No more than scientists studying seismology would be responsible for earthquakes. The judiciary are simply not the right people to ask, in attempting to solve the problems of family breakdowns. We need to take these disputes out of the court arena, to offer meaningful early resolution pathways, which are well funded. In the current austere economic climate, getting government backing with be like getting blood from a stone, but such measures would be far cheaper in the long run & better for the nations children than the slow, sometimes perverse, enigmatic and incomprehensible status quo we have, from the childs perspective.. especially if you share the view that the last Tory era had a significant hand in dispersing family providers far & wide, in search of work in the eighties.... Reading my own words, it seems I agree with you fully in spirit, but you would be well served by avoiding controversial statistics & rhetoric. ukfamilylawreform.co.uk/pleasewillyouhelpus24thoctober2012.htm
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