5 Tips To Let Go Of The Past & Live A Happier Life The effects of being dragged down by your past are far-reaching: a distorted view of yourself, stressful relationships, squashed dreams, everyday sadness and frustration. And all of it is unnecessary. You can heal the pain of your past. You can step out into a life of happiness, freedom, and possibility. But time doesnt heal all wounds. It takes making these five smart choices. Youre smart, right? Then dont waste one more second of your precious life fretting about the past. 1. Get fed up with being stuck. Get very fed up with the tears and depression, the blaming and if-onlys. Be really, really tired of carrying this baggage around. Because then youre open to solutions. Youre willing to look at yourself. Youre done with the story about how youve been wronged, and youre available for real change from within. 2. Give up being a victim. If you carry around pain from your past, youve identified yourself as a victim. You believe something was done to you, and if only things had been different, you would have been fine. Well, heres the truth. What happened, happened. But how you hold it is completely up to you. Its true: suffering is optional. You can choose a mindset of blame and victimhood and continue as you are. Or you can focus on your own peace and happiness. Dont be concerned about other people — what they did or what you think they deserve. Instead, open your heart to yourself and find the place in you thats never been touched by anything that happened. 3. Dont wait one more minute for an apology. Believe me when I say you dont need an apology. Why? It puts your well-being in the hands of something you cant control and leaves you waiting — not for an apology, but for happiness. The only thing you need is to decide that youre going to be at peace. Make this the guiding principle as the moments of your life unfold, and what to do becomes perfectly clear. 4. Get to know how you feed your pain. Take a look at your inner world and get to know how you feed unhappy stories and painful emotions. Yes, these stories arise in your mind, and the feelings appear. But you can choose to not give them your attention. When you notice youve been captured by an old story and the feelings that go with it, this is your golden moment. Instead of feeding them, orient your attention to experiences that offer peace, calm, and delight. If you take off your blinders from the past, you will notice them everywhere. 5. Expand your view of yourself. If youve been holding on to old pain for a long time, its colored how you see yourself. Youre not the limited, broken one you might think you are. Behind the veil of pain, you are way more beautiful than that. See how this identity has held you back. Then let yourself emerge unveiled — fresh and openhearted. When youre no longer defined by this story, youll see that who you are is already whole, never wounded, magnificent beyond measure. Live here, and the pain of the past will be barely a distant memory. mindbodygreen/0-12875/5-tips-to-let-go-of-the-past-live-a-happier-life.html
Posted on: Thu, 20 Mar 2014 13:00:01 +0000
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