ARE YOU LOSING YOURSELF IN A RELATIONSHIP??? . . . 7 SIGNS TO KNOW!!! There is something worse than losing someone you love. Its losing yourself in the process of Loving someone else. *In an ideal relationship, your Lives will gradually blend together, but they will never overlap completely, i.e. the both of you will begin to align with each other, while you still retain your individuality and uniqueness. Here are 7 Signs that you are losing yourself in a relationship 1. When you change yourself to please the person even when you hate what you are doing. A lot of people are caught in this web, more especially the ladies. You see yourself picking up bad habits that were not part of your life before. You find yourself giving up things that were once important to you; like keeping late nights just to make your partner happy. You find yourself developing bad habits because of your relationship. 2. When the person makes every decision for you or when you act on the persons decision without reasoning it out. That you are in a relationship with someone does not mean you don’t have your own life and can’t make your own decisions. So if you notice that your decisions are all the opinion of the person you are in love with, then you are already losing yourself. That does not mean that you run solo with your ideas and decisions when you are in a relationship. You should always endevour to run your decisions by your partner, it always enhances compatibility. 3. You find yourself cutting off from your friends & families. Your friends and family (most importantly) are an integral part of your life for life. When you get into a relationship, some of the time that you spend with your friends and family will be largely reduced to accommodate the new person in your life; but that does not mean you will be cut away from them entirely. If you see yourself severing the relationship between yourself and your friend and family, then it is a bad sign. 4. When you see yourself apologizing at every provocation that comes up between the both of you. One thing that is inevitable in a relationship is quarrel and disagreement – it fosters relationship (if well handled). The hallmark of a good relationship is that every quarrel is quickly resolved and it increases the bond in the relationship. In a healthy relationship, both the guy and the girl are quick to apologize when there is a disagreement – one does not wait for the other to ask for forgiveness before they make up. But when you are the only one trying to make up when there is a brawl, then it clearly show that you are losing yourself. 5. You find yourself compromising your beliefs, values and principles as an individual. Every life – whether successful or not are built on unique principles that have been practiced over time. Your values and principles are the foundation on which your life is built and should never be tampered with (except for the negative ones that should be changed). When it becomes obvious that you are compromising those values that are unique to you and makes you who you are; it simply means that you need to retake a full grip of yourself because you are already losing it. 6. You find yourself putting your Life on hold. Eg, choosing to wait for a guy who has not even proposed in HOPE that he will, while ignoring potential marriage suitors. It is very surprising that a lot of people fall into this snare; people “pause” their lives because of a guy they believe is interested in them or a girl they believe will “soon” say “yes” to them. They do this without taking time to analyze the situation to find out whether the guy/girl has the same goal in mind for the relationship. Anyone sticking to a relationship or hoping for a nod from a guy/girl without giving any other person a chance is apparently losing him/herself. 7. You noticed that being around that person only provokes your weakness and not your strength. In a good love relationship, the both parties earnestly seek for ways to promote the strength of each other and down-play on the weaknesses of their partners. Not that you would overlook the weaknesses of your partner as a lot of people suggest; you only avoid anything that will make you dwell and over-flog it. If you remain in a relationship where all that your partner sees in you are your weak points – which always make you feel inferior, then you will need to embark on a journey of self-discovery because you have really lost yourself. If you are guilty of these signs, then it’s time to adjust your life. THINK TWICE AND ACT RIGHT!!!
Posted on: Tue, 29 Oct 2013 17:43:40 +0000
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