Exactly 2 weeks later and Im already being asked about marriage life. Its so funny I needed to post my second written post. Although I hate posting thoughts its almost imperative I clarify for those who soon will or in the near future are planning for marriage. Marriage is a psychological title thats associated with some fairy tale lifestyle. We must not forget science and how it applies to almost every aspect of life. Before marriage remember theirs a process that involve a relationship to be present. Some discredit this but a relationship consists of many different elements almost similar to the periodic table (science). To avoid being discredited I wont go in detail on what those elements are because they may be different depending on any given situation. But its those elements that build the foundation to all relationships. Pay attention to the key word used All-relationships. Just to give you an example, these elements may consist if trust, understanding of self and others, compassion, societal freedom, loyalty, supportive friends and some form of spirituality (note I did not use religion) but Im sure many if not majority will disagree on that last element. These are just several of many components needed in order to be prepared for a everlasting (not short term) relationship/marriage. It may seem like a lot but believe me its worth it in the long run. Understand this, its safe to associate marriage with the same process involve with purchasing a home. For those who lack the knowledge associated with being a homeowner, buying a home can be a lengthy process. Reason being its only appropriate that lenders are extremely careful when loaning large amounts of money. Which after such a lengthy process, you ultimately sign a long-term agreement that hopeful the bank/lender ensured your capable of affording over a specific time span. This is a very careful process because issuing bad loans ultimately affect the economy rather than society like marriage would in my opinion. This example may be extreme but the concept behind the process, time, and carefulness involved is the point being made. Same ideology should be used when approaching a relationship, the components/elements must be acknowledged before marriage. With that being said, after these components are present in a relationship your ready to get married. So when those who are married for the right reason(s) are asked how married life is, its only appropriate the response is, the same as prior to being married because those fundamental elements have been addressed in whatever fashion and a foundation has already been built (just like a house). Nothing changes at least should change should I say? And if things do, the foundation can be defined as unstable. Some gone question the lengthy measures Im taking to address what some may think this is just a simple question requiring a simple answer but in my Opinion its this simplicity that has damage the true meaning of being married. As a result now marriage has been associated with this psychological agenda that promotes changed behaviors. Ive heard some go as far to say a males wedding band is a male handcuff, funny but a little ignorant. Whats funny, believe it or not is those who are not marriage asked me hows marriage life. No disrespect to them but that mentality or question can easy rub off on an unconscious individual as though theres something to expect after marriage. Remember expectations are built in a relationship and not a marriage. Finally, before I conclude I will discuss my opinion of marriage and its sole intent. Marriage shows character not only to self but society, remember its a status. But its intent is to and only to build character, meaning self and those around you. Lets go back 50-60 years when in my opinion marriage meant something to those who chose to marry of course. Dont get me wrong, yeah-bad marriages still existed, it also wasnt as common as it is today where most marriages last at most a couple years. I may stand corrected by anyone interested in doing the research but lets be realistic. Amongst my culture I just dont see any 20-40 year long marriages. Anyway the fact remains if marriages are suppose to start families (supposedly) and the reason being it illustrates and trains children the magnitude or beauty of one day getting married. Another uncommon goal is that we grow up with no intent to become married, resulting from the fun society associates with being single and the fairy tale people contiguously associate with being married, which in my opinion are false thoughts or and analogys. Kids that grow up in household where parents are married are more likely to marry and stay married longer. Again anybody interested in doing the research by all means I encourage. In conclusion like I stated early I dont have all the answers and never will but I can speak from experience, as should anyone with an opinion. But we need to be more careful on how simple minded dialogue can be damaging to those already affected (propaganda) by the true meaning of the topic at hand. Also, because Ive grown to enjoy what a true relationship offers I only encourage others whom find themselves in a relationship thats stuck or showing no progression to re-access those elements and others because the list will always increase as long as society changes and strive to build a more solid foundation. Lets respect those women that are in relationships with Kings. Reason I’m singling out the Kings is because as men I know we feel the need to glance at the biggest A@@ in line at the store. Same stands true to the Queens who feel as though a Good King in a relationship is your only option. For those who despise the length of this message and or dialogue my apologies are sincere. But as a culture lets do better so we can stop confusing people with these polluted expectations how life is or may be after a King&Queen decides to marry. Its just stage two of a solid relationship. Once this concept is reprogram in the minds of the culture then again we shall resume the long-term commitment involved with entering any relationship rather its a marriage or not. Love&Peace✊
Posted on: Sat, 09 Aug 2014 17:54:32 +0000
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