Hi Gilbert, I came across your interesting website while surfing the Internet in search of advice on the above matters. I divorced in 2013 and presently looking for a job. My maintenance order requires me to pay my ex-wife $4000/month and my son $3000/month. Besides this, I have to pay my son’s tertiary fees (he is now in 2nd year NUS) and 80% of medical/dental expenses. I have resigned from my job and currently looking for another job. At my age of 57, it is not likely that I will get the same gross income as my last job – probably considerably less. My earning was S$26,000 (gross)/month and my next job is probably be about $12,000 (gross)/month if I am lucky to find one within the next 6 month. In light of the above, I would like to seek your counsel on how feasible it is in making a Maintenance Variation Order,. My concerns on the excessive (and frivolous) medical/dental expense claims in excess of $2000/month plus the continuous harassment via email to me, my colleagues, friends, relatives and what-nots so as to embarrass and humiliate me, and writing untruth to my bosses causing the company to investigate me on non-compliance, etc. In short, it seems like her aim is to get me to lose my job, humiliate me to the max, and then expecting me to continue paying her and my son the monthly maintenance. I am indeed facing a a real case of “hell hath no fury like a woman scorn.” If it is fine with you, I would like to request for a face-to-face counselling session at your convenience. Kind regards and thank you in advance for your help. Larry Editor’s note: We are arranging a session to see the person and someone who is helping us has also spoken to him at length on the phone. - See more at: transitioning.org/2015/01/10/57-year-old-divorced-local-pmet-used-to-earn-26000month-now-seeking-assistance-on-downward-variation-of-7000-maintenance/#sthash.JByrM7RI.dpuf
Posted on: Sat, 10 Jan 2015 00:34:54 +0000