This post comes from a brother who wishes to remain anonymous Shyness doesnt mean u shud be shy to express ur love for ur hubby, some women think dat haya means u shud be tough even to ur hubby, ur husband is now ur mahram by virtue of marriage. There are 3 forms of mahram: by blood, by kinship and by marriage.. Send sweet text to ur husband at work, sometimes even if u r in d room discusin wit ur husband, stilll be chattin wit him on social network, even though he is right there in ur front, its fun!!!!!!!!! U shud be chattin wit ur husband, not nonmahrms on sociall ntwork.. Buy flowers for him, when eatin, give him d bigger meat, attimes bake cake for him to surprise him.. Sisters, use ur soft voice to sing for him, be creative, a poem like (((twinklle twinkle lovely spouse, how I wonder what you are, up above my world so high, like a diamond in my heart))). Sing poems for him, no shyness there. Al khansaa nd khawlaa bint azwar used to sing, ibn qayyim and imam shafi used to compose poems. Its sunnah... One day, when your husband has gone to work, quickly clean the house and do d chores, cook his favourite dish, arrange it in the dining table, clean d cleanable and dust d dustable, then go to the bedroom, pimp it and make it romantic, make it dim and freshen it up, then take ur bath and prepare yourself for action, then sit gallantly on the chair in the siting room and cross your legs while wearing a seductive dress, so that when he comes back from work, after all d hard days work and alll the sweat from the hot sun, as soon as he opens d door into the house, d first thing he will see is his pretty darling wife sitted in the chair, wit her legs crossed and her pretty smile showing her open-teeth.............. Wow.. Thats what being romantic is about, infact his love for u will increase. Dont just be wellcomin ur husband wit an angry face bcos ther is no money in d house, Alllah is ar-razaq, he is d provider.. Dont wellcome ur husband wit ur body smelling maggi, dont only play wt ur husband when he hs collected salary. Wellcome him wit a warm hug allways, and when he is going to work, make dua for him to Alllah to return him safely. Suport him, advise him, wipe his tears, be grateful to him, its not easy to be a man, when u see his eeman depreciating, encourage him, dont threaten him that u willl seek for divorce, dont compare him wit other men, dont describe women to him, buy gifts for him too, wash his clothes and boxers for him, cat-walk for him, sing for him, praise him in a way that he woulldnt think of a second wife, be d best cook, wash his car, dress him up, give him injection when he is sick... Wake him wit a peck and dont complain about his snoring.. Ask him to teach you aabout ahadith, fiqh, seerah, usool and others.. Sometimes spare him of women troubles.. Umar ibn khattab said, be good to ur wives, be like a kid to her in d bedroom but when things get tough, stand up and act like a man... Brodaz dont just jump on ur wives like animals, the prophet said, when any of u meet ur wives, let there be a messenger(kissing) between you and her(muslim)... Start with foreplay then others.. Read books on intimacy, dont learn it from what u see in movies.. Most of what u see are haram.. Call ur husband wit pet names, cute names or his kunya... Though you can also call him by his name even if he is 20yrs older than you, as far as he is comfortable with it... Remember that Alllah said, men are the protectors and maintainers of women..... So respect him and honour him even if he is younger than u... Marriage isnt a bed of roses but a bed of sacrifice.. The prophet said, there is nothing better for two people who love eachother than marriage... Imam ibn qayyim said,To fall in love is a disease and its cure is to marry d person one is in love with. Love is when u take away the feeling, d passion and d romance and u find out u stilll care for that person... Finaly, married men, divide your nights into 3: one for yourself(sleeping), one for your wife and one for your lord.. JazakumuLLAHU Khayran for taking your time to read this wonderful piece
Posted on: Sat, 30 Aug 2014 16:56:47 +0000
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