When Love Goes Bad...Heres What to Do... If youre not getting the love you want... Most people in your situation start asking themselves the question (either consciously or unconsciously)... Should I stay with this person (even if I love them) or should I move on? And if you want to stay and rebuild the love, heres something you should know... Its the most important aspect of any relationship. AND... Its also the first thing you want to fix if you dont have the love, passion or connection that you want from your partner. What were talking about is TRUST. And no, were not just talking about lack of trust as in the screaming, crying, thinking your love is over due to him or her cheating on you kind of trust issues. Were talking about a whole other layer of trust issues that are present in almost every relationship or marriage... But most people dont see them or realize they are there until its too late. The kind of trust issues between two people were talking about here are things like... ~When either one of you doesnt feel safe enough to say what youre really feeling ~When you dont listen to one another and you blame, jump to conclusion and react from whats happened in the past ~When either or both of you arent kind and are critical when your partner needs love and support What we both know to be true is that if you want to rebuild love between the two of you, you have to start rebuilding this kind of trust first. The level of trust were talking about to tackle first is allowing the space for each person to feel safe to share whats true for him or her--whether you end up staying together or not. For both of us in our previous marriages (nearly 20 years ago now), it wasnt until we had reached a point where we felt we had nothing to lose that we were completely honest to share what was inside. And strangely enough, our previous partners shared from their heart as well. At those moments of sharing, there was trust to be totally honest without the blame and judgment of the other. Even though those marriages ended, it doesnt have to be that way for you. Heres what you want to do to build this kind of trust earlier than we did in those relationships so you dont end up sitting across from a divorce lawyer in tears... Take our advice and start building trust with each other now by... *Stop automatically being critical, angry, or judgmental when your partner could use love and support instead *Dont jump to conclusions and interrupt but listen and find out more *Create safety for your partner to tell you whats truly happening inside him or her (and no, that doesnt mean you have to agree) *Look deeply inside YOU for whats real and honest for you (If you need help, our Should You Stay or Should You Go? program can help you sort out your feelings so you can be honest with yourself and make your best decision possible.) If youve felt disconnected from you partner and you dont know what to do to make it better, start building the level of trust were talking about here between the two of you. You really have nothing to lose and everything to gain! always from Prince whatapp: 08163961359 bbm: 22210db5
Posted on: Mon, 29 Dec 2014 14:16:01 +0000
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