14 Ways of SELF CONTROL: Bear in mind everyone is entitled to express, think, or feel whatever we want, whenever you do not harm anyone. Emotional self-control is related to assertive behaviour. Assertiveness allows us to defend our own rights, opinions, and feelings without harming or hurting others. 14 effective steps to achieve more self-control: • Know yourself- Be vigilant and know the function of your instincts or passions. Remember the situation the last time you were aggressive or too passionate. • Cultivate positive thoughts- Analyze each situation, try to discover their logic. Emotional chaos happens when you act without thinking. • Exercise your will- Learn how to say no, to pleasure-related situations or risky situations. You will feel better in the long run. • Identify the situations that irritate you the most and you will see the majority of them are not important. Emotional chaos won’t produce positive outcomes. • Set goals when calm- Visualize as a calm person and change patterns to be there, exercise patience and tolerance. • Practice all the relaxation methods or meditation practices that you might learn • Take a walk, go for a vacation, look for nature and relax in the mountains or on the beach, let nature enchant you. • Don’t blame your nervous system for your lack of control- Your nervous system will act in function of your thoughts and emotions, don’t blame others as well. • Avoid excess worry- You cannot change the past nor the future. Act more and worry less. • Look for the actions and behaviors of people who lose control. Realize they are often bitter. • Admire calm people, those who are easygoing, calm, and peaceful. • Don’t be too upset or worried. This will not help at all, if you need to be distracted, go don’t hesitate to do something that relaxes you. • Don’t make problems too big, try to see things from perspective. • Never give up- Difficulties arise however not always as expected, be virtuous in being optimistic.
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